11th of December 2013 to 11th of December 2014 Here I am again, 365 days have passed and I am a year older in many ways. It’s been a terrific trying year for me. But I am grateful to have come this far because I have met a lot of people, learnt from them and will still learn from them. Experiences have come in to the fore of my consciousness, prompting me to write this. Below are some of the invaluable lessons of the last 365 days that I wish to share with everyone. Each point is given in no particular other and was written as it came to my mind. • Age is not maturity: first of people often confuse aging with the maturation process but with what I have seen and experienced this year, I would beg to differ. Never confuse age with maturity; maturity stems from imbibed wisdom. Not all older people are truly wise. I have seen it everywhere; people claiming to be mature because of experiences. Experiences are meant to induce wisdom and not be worn as medals of honour. Of what use is an experience to you if all you can do with it is remember. Each experience has its value; be it moral, psychological, social or whatever. Don’t just accumulate experience, learn from it and develop the necessary wisdom that comes with it. • Don’t desert family: First of, I am not a family man per se, but I can tell you this. No other group of people will keep up with all your bull crap like family. No other group of people will support and love you like family. No other group will stick and stay until the very end like them. And of course no other group will annoy and frustrate you like they will also. But all in all, appreciate the family you have. • Convictions are personal: this in particular stems from my watching people trying hard to influence/convert/change the beliefs of other people. This drama of people convincing other people results in what I would love to call a “chaotic symphony”. You all may not agree with me; but there is no point trying to confuse another people any more than he or she is already confused. Every human walks around with an element of conviction. I believe strongly in letting every person find their own conviction. This because conviction is what builds will, which in turn builds your attitude. You are allowed to put them on the “bus” but please do not put them in “booth” and drive them to their destination. Let them find their way. • Love is a force of nature not emotion only: HA!! This one is tricky o! How do I explain it? You see…….love is gentle like a feather. It exists in all of us. I used to think it does not exist (that was until much recently) and I always wonder why older couples still stay together after all the differences they must have noticed about themselves. Let me tell you now: Love has the will of diamond; unbreakable, enduring, precious and extremely hard to cultivate (I’d like to see you guys make a diamond from a pile of dirt!). Its rarity is so rare (yes I know; rarity---rare), that very few people actually find it. And when they do, they hold on tight and will never let go. That is why a mother will never abandon her child, and why older couples are still together. I wish I could explain this in full, but I myself am yet to fully grasp this monolith of satirical knowledge. Love as a will is as strong as the force of nature (if not stronger sef!) but it always starts out as weak and it is up to us to cultivate it to that very stage where it evolves into something not only powerful but beautiful. • Value your real friends: You know the saying “a friend in need is a friend in deed”? Nothing could be any truer. These guys will stick to you like a second skin and are the next best things after God and family in that order. Don’t make friends for political reasons; make them because it’s what you both want. Be there for them (and please ditch the exploiters; they are worse than leeches). • Familiarity is a disease: familiarity or famzing for short is one thing I have come to find as despicable. No word can explain my disdain for the act; it’s been on the increase ever since the term “celebrity” was invented and the worst part is that we are all guilty of this very act. It’s good to know people but its best to get to know each other on a gradual basis. Don’t rush it; take your time and let it move from the acquaintance level to the friend level (and yes, u might know people for decades and still be acquaintances) • Let your work speak for you: Work hard and work smart. Give your best in everything; do not give out half-baked services. Your work will speak for you longer than any man can and will. Put your soul into everything you do and let God do the rest. This recipe works and is still working for me. • Humility and Honesty: these two “Hs” will take you to places. Honesty will gain trust and humility will open doors. To gain favour with men you need both (To gain favour with God you need them both and more). I have made some long lasting friendships because of honesty and each time I look back on how it happened; I know that there is no other way it would have happened. • Speech is silver and silence is golden: one must know when to speak and when to stay quiet. That is one of the indicators of self-control and discipline; you don’t have to say all that you see necessary, and you don’t have to stay mute when you are supposed to utter your grievances. Find the balance; my recommendation would be to spend more time listening than talking (two ears, one mouth analogy). • Change yourself before trying to change others: first of, I won’t talk much on this. Jesus said “remove the log in your eye, before removing the speck in another’s”. This point is similar to the conviction part except that it is in the expression of our attitude. An American ad I used to come across while reading comics used to say “attitude is everything”; to be honest, it does carry deep element in it. Any change in conviction that we have will evidently be shown in your attitude towards life. Not making any good progress after changing all the necessary variables? Then change your attitude. It is often the last and the most difficult thing for us to change. And by changing your attitude, it has to be a positive change; one that makes you a more awesome person. *now playing secrets by One republic*
Posted on: Fri, 12 Dec 2014 09:57:34 +0000
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