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49 ways to love a woman I am not sure why you chose to read this article. If you are a regular reader of this column, you probably didn’t because you wanted to know the 49 ways to love a woman I would write about. For others, if you were attracted by the headline, it is understandable. Loving a woman is a serious issue that one has to keep learning how to — depending on the kind of woman you are in a relationship with. At a stage in a man’s life, he is under pressure to get a woman to marry. Choosing one to settle with “for better for worse” can be tough and sometimes a gamble. There is a Yoruba saying that marriage for a man and woman is like buying a product from a night market. You will need to get home to know how good what you have bought under the cover of darkness is. This analogy may not be completely true of marriage but it somehow captures the reality of how men and women turn out to be different from what they were before marriage. I really wish I could write 49 ways to love a woman based on my over twenty years of marriage but I am not sure I can. I know a few though and they are the ones I will mention in this piece. Over the years I have learnt that one sure way to love a woman is to know her very well to know how to express your love. If you don’t, you may easily get frustrated trying to love her in a particular way she doesn’t appreciate. You must know what she likes from what she does not and work together on how to have a harmonious relationship based on your own likes and dislikes. Love is about compromise and not insisting on having your way all the time. Love is not science. It could be as simple as complimenting your woman about her looks. Don’t wait to be asked if you didn’t notice the new hairdo she has on or the dress she is wearing for the first time. Some women are known to have gotten involved in extra-marital affairs with men who compliment them often while their husbands choose not to see anything good in them. It could also be as complicated as meeting her various emotional and physical needs which she may not want to ask for but expects you to know and do something about. Learn to say ‘I love you’ when you should, instead of assuming she knows you love her. What women hear you say about them matters a lot. There is no better way to show you love a woman than to openly declare it as often as you can as against being ‘old school’ or over spiritual. Some of the pieces of advice I have given are easier said than done. I am not sure how good a lover man I have been myself but I can give myself a pass mark. The person to rate me should be my darling wife, Ronke, whose this piece is dedicated to on her 49th birthday today. The 49 in the headline is not about how good I am about love matters, it is a tribute to the woman who has taught me many things about how to love a woman. Happy birthday Ronkusbaby!
Posted on: Sun, 06 Oct 2013 22:52:19 +0000

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