After having been with a narc, my greatest fear is ending up with another one. If I got fooled by one, I could get fooled by another, and since my narc was a family friend, no connection, no friends good word is going to reassure me. I have to learn to trust my instincts and my new education. Thats why studying narcissism and your past relationship is so important. Examining what happened, learning to see the red flags you ignored will help you build up the confidence you need to be able to trust yourself again to make good decisions about who you let into your life. After such a destabilizing relationship in which the rules were constantly changing and the foundation was made of lies, you have to stand still and figure out what happened, how you let yourself put up with it in the first place. If we move on without learning from what happened, we will move right into another relationship with a narc because in this vulnerable state, were especially susceptible to narcissists and other unhealthy partners. Conventional wisdom is to let it go and move on. What is there to let go? When the partner with whom youve been walking on the path changes course and doesnt provide information you need to have to make informed choices about your own well being, it casts doubt on your ability to make any choice and standing still seems best. -from The Legendary Narcissist
Posted on: Mon, 13 Oct 2014 15:44:11 +0000
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