Each and every one of us is worth it!! You are worth it!! Nobody is a loss cause, and when I hear those words from others describing another human being, its like a knife piercing my heart. I struggled with words being labelled upon me, rumours, lies and being made to feel that I was worthless, told Im a loss cause. (Past tense). When words are flung around needlessly, they can hurt others deeply! I know who I am, and when another is attacked verbally directly or indirectly I internalize it as if it has just stung me, even if its not about me. Having compassion for others is something naturally built in me. I think about many people whether they know it or not. I wish well for all and have great empathy for those who do not have supporters in their lives. We all need our supporters, encouragers and people who will go the extra mile to be there when you need them. True family and friends will say what you need to hear, not just what you want to hear. Sometimes the truth hurts, but wouldnt you want the small sting of truth, ....or lies that will never help you, and can very well lead you on your very own path of destruction? Sometimes I come on Facebook to only share a quote or something encouraging and I start thinking about all those Ive come across hurting or struggling. Some are family, some friends or strangers who have taken the time to tell me how their feeling and/or their story. ((I am grateful because I learn from each and every one of you)) Its to easy to get lost in this world of madness, its to easy to just give up. Many times Ive thought these things in my own life. Then I pause and think, if I gave up then all those against me would have won (in a way). Others, family and friends around me would be hurt and lost if I gave up. I would not have had the chance to live the life I am living today, if I gave up!! We are all important no matter what anyone else thinks or says. It dont matter about the opinions of others or their perception of your life that they have. Push through it all and you do what you think is right for you! If your doing your best, then thats all that matters. We cant give more then our best. No matter what your best is, ....it is enough and it is perfect. Nobody can be expected to give more then they can, its unrealistic. It takes a strong person to ask for help, after all we cant read minds ...yet..lol. There is no shame in mistakes, no shame in asking for help. Though if you find yourself making the same mistakes over and over, then its time for change, why?, because Your worth it! You deserve the greatest life has to offer. So many people struggling with their inner demons, struggling to get through life and ......to ...Just ..be ..able ..to ..breathe! Many feeling like their drowning and their cries for help unheard. Some of us struggle in silence, and not everyone has someone in their life who can help them. Even some professionals are unaware that individuals are falling through the cracks and help has been denied. I know, because I use to be one of them. The only way I got through and began to get better was when I had the right people at the right time in my life. They taught me so much and Im so very grateful and can never say thank you enough! We also must be teachable, ready to hear what needs to be said and willing to change our lives, our way of thinking and drop all the negative thats been poured into us from others. People who really know who I am, know that I can be an open book. I hold nothing back and always be as honest as I can be. I will tell you this, my struggles have been great ones and Im so very grateful to be here today. To see the accomplishments and the changes in myself and my life. Not everyone knows my life story, but those who do, know how much I have had to overcome. I strongly say this, if I am here today talking to you, it is a miracle. I should have been dead quite a few times over or locked up some where lol. Im telling you from one survivor to the next, (((we are all living in this chaotic world, we are all survivors ;))),.....There is hope, there is a way, no matter what your going through, no matter how bleak life feels, no matter how lost you feel, no matter what anyone else says or thinks, no matter what crisis or circumstance your going through, no matter your diagnosis or disabilities, no matter your health, no matter your finances, no matter whats going on in your life, You can push through it! I have faith in You, just find it deep within yourself ..why? ...Because your worth it, youll make it, and one day you Will find more peace and never look back! :). One day at a time will get you there. Only think about today, tomorrow will be there when you get there. The past Is your past and you should never look back unless its to better yourself. Leave the negative behind and push through to whats to come. It may not be easy, God knows Ive struggled to get to where I am today, and Im still pushing through. The baby steps I started with have grown into bigger strides, sometimes slowly but bigger steps indeed! I continue to work on myself and some days are more of a struggle then others, but I tell you its amazing once you take that first step! Never give up and keep pushing through. One thing that was told to me over and over and Over again, its not about you. Believe me I cared so much about what others said or thought, that I was still hindered by those darn labels people put on me. Think about it this way, most of what people think or say is about them and not about you at all. When you start realizing this and reminding yourself, you will start seeing where its coming from and realize that their opinion means squat, especially if you didnt ask for it! I am slowly beginning to understand it, but at the same time sadness for that person because it shows how lost they really are in their lives or how misinformed they are. Or it shows what they dont understand and what they have not been taught. Sometimes it shows the persons insecurities and speaking out from their emotions instead of saying how she/he really feels. We seem to hide behind words and many people dont even know their doing it. Its sometimes a safety mechanism for some, because they are scared to say how they really feel or their just not ready to see why they feel that way. (Hence past experiences). When I look around Facebook I see it every where! Ive been guilty as well commenting on something because of how the original post or a comment made me feel. Im starting to understand more that words are of huge importance more so then how we feel. So if words can deplete us, words can rebuild and strengthen us!! What we think in our minds are words unwritten and so much more important. So what we tell ourselves is more important then what others say to us, because its connected directly within us. You can refuse to take in what another person says, but if your already thinking it, ......well you get the point. Im still working on this, one of the biggest Ive struggled with. Nothing changes over night and it takes effort, time and patience to have the outcome were striving for. There are still many things Im working on within myself and as each day unfolds, Im one step closer to being healthier and free from the bondage of labels and words. So through the many years I have had to tell myself these quotes and sayings. I know there is many who can benefit from these words as well. Please Read out loud slowly the following and repeat them until you believe it within yourself!! -I am Beautiful or Handsome (A positive word that reinforces your outlook on yourself physically and internally!). Look in the mirror, say it over and over. Look at yourself in yours eyes when you do it. You might think this is silly, but many of us need to tell ourselves this message! Relying on others or expecting others to tell you wont help, you must fully believe it yourself! Yes its nice when our partners tell us, but we must already know it, believe it and feel it! Dont look at your flaws because we all have them. There is no such thing as the perfection we all strive for and its pointless when were already perfect as we are. Its amazing the insanity of chasing something we already have, which is beauty in all its forms, shapes and sizes. Society lies and we lie to ourselves. Are we going to stop searching and looking for something we already have? It only drains us. Break free from the lies and know your true beauty! -I am worthy, I am worth it! -I can do anything even if it takes baby steps. If I fail its okay. It means that I have tried, and I will keep trying until I succeed. -If what Ive tried doesnt work, why am I still doing the same thing and expecting change? If I keep going around the mountain, how do I expect to get to the top? -I can do it, change is what... I ...make it. I can succeed through anything and I will refocus and put my energy into things that will have the outcome I desire! -I cannot expect change from others, if I refuse to reflect on the change that is needed in myself and my life. -I can only change aspects of my life with humility, patience, love and kindness within and too myself. Its okay to make mistakes and I will learn from them. Build upon them and create the person I dream to be. -Its not about me ....(this is very important when negative words are being thrown your way. If someone really was helping they would try to use kind words, not name calling, or words that belittle or degrade. Judgements from others are based on their past and what they know or dont know, not a reflection of you. Healthy criticism will help you grow, not hold you back. -Put caring for yourself on your to-do-list. Its important to take time for yourself, time to reflect and recharge. -I will do it afraid...breaking through the barriers of anxiety one step at a time. My steps only need to be as big or small as Im able. Nothing is overcome in one day! -I will reward myself for every accomplishment no matter how big or small! In conclusion I will end with the quote I was initially posting before sharing my thoughts with you. ;). Thank you for taking the time to read what I have written. I hope it will encourage others to be strong and never give up! You are Worth It!! Your life is a sacred journey. And it is about change, growth, discovery, movement, transformation, continuously expanding your vision of what is possible, stretching your soul, learning to see clearly and deeply, listening to your intuition, taking courageous challenges at every step along the way. You are on the path......exactly where you are meant to be right now....And from here, you can only go forward, shaping your life story into a magnificent tale of triumph, of healing, of courage, of beauty, of wisdom, of power, of dignity, and of love. ---Caroline Adams
Posted on: Sun, 26 Oct 2014 18:03:14 +0000
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