FEELING VALUED AND APPRECIATED I went to my local Starbucks this morning for the first time in over a month as they had been closed for refurbishment and today was their first day back. A capcuccino after my run or exercise class in the morning is my guilty pleasure and I have really missed them. I learnt a little about myself tho this month and that is 1. I can survive without a coffee and 2. I am a bit of a loyal customer to my local Starbucks and today I learnt why. When I walked in this morning nearly all the staff gave me the most incredible welcome I nearly cried. I will admit to being more emotional than normal this week but I have a lot of stuff to let go of. They gave me a free coffee, a free flask and told me how much they had missed me and I could tell they meant it by the looks in the eyes and the warmth in their voices. Now granted they were glad to be back because I know they all had to take unpaid leave whilst the work went on and for some the relief of having a job back must be enormous but even so their heart felt welcome was very touching and I left feeling valued and wanted. Perhaps sad that I got it from staff in my local cafe but it reminded me of the power of warmth and care for each other. When I started using Facebook I was sceptical that it was something people used to avoid real life and those around me were very negative about it. I knew however that it was vital for the business and to be honest at the time I felt so unheard myself it seemed like the best place to start and I was so right. Having spent years understanding the root cause of my dis-ease I knew I had to use something for me to feel my way back to people who both wanted to be heard and also genuinely wanted to hear me. Having worked with it for sometime now I know how important social media is to people and how it really does helps people feel heard and valued when sometimes they dont in their real lives. I have learnt by watching and hearing and by some of the incredible sharing people do. Something many of us do not get from the people in their real lives because we simply take eachother for granted and are far too busy in our own worlds to look up at others. An approach in life I have never understood but learnt to accept and acknowledge and know it is nothing personal. In my work I help a lot of people find their path back to self worth and good health and I love nothing more than watching them get back off their knees and start moving forward again.I can feel when it happens and I know because I have been there. There is never one thing that brings the change but a multiple of things slotting together at the right time and it is amazing to watch others fly again. What I have also learnt however is that people rarely thankyou and often take what you have learnt and decided to share for granted when you let them. People are also often too embarrassed in real life to thank others for their part in helping their journey. Often they dont because they were not concious when you gave them their nugget and it is not until they get the final piece of the jigsaw that it all slots into place. Again its nothing personal. For me, my passion to make sure others are heard is so strong I accept that sometimes I will get ignored and taken for granted and choose to ignore a large portion of it. I have however also learnt that my own boundaries are really important and that two way streets are vital for our own growth and wellbeing. I am therefore strict with my own personal boundaries and clear with who I will and will not help outside of my working world. I am also learning to always be very conscious when others help me and to be vocal with my thanks and appreciation. Sometimes they may not even know they have helped and that is Ok but I am grateful all the same. I trust that one day I will feel this reciprocated but for now I am peaceful in that my appreciation in life and its guides is enough. So as you go about your day today, notice those that help your world and be grateful to them in whatever way works for you and trust that when someone feels valued and heard their ability to appreciate and be appreciated grows exponentially and with this so does your ability to attract abundance and wellbeing. And one word of warning try not to take people in your real world for granted because when they wake up to this their standards will go up and you could find the one that is left out in the cold. Compassion and understanding is all about being human and it starts with those around you. So thankyou Starbucks Haywards Heath staff for being so excited at your new improved store and for making your customers feel welcome and appreciated. May your success continue and your community grow and thrive with you.
Posted on: Wed, 26 Nov 2014 12:45:12 +0000
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