Good Morning fellow Warriors! How is everyone this morning? - TopicsExpress



          

Good Morning fellow Warriors! How is everyone this morning? Foggy here, of course it is suppose to “burn off”, hope it does soon. Woke up rather early considering it’s Saturday, but it’s alright. Got my coffee, how about you? I am going to go sit by the window; fog is clearing as I type. So I can’t wait to see some vitamin D, already took some vitamin D so I should be good to go! This morning I was thinking that some of you may be wondering how or why I call and consider all of us WARRIORS, so I thought I would explain. The Narcissist is very well known for their “pity party” you know the type, the “victim” of everyone everywhere. From ex-girlfriends/boyfriends, ex-wife’s/husbands, you get the idea. A “victim” by definition is someone who has no power. So that means that things are done to them, not by them. Bare with me, so let’s say someone his hit by a drunk driver, that person would indeed be a victim. However, a child or person who is abused is a powerless victim against the abuser. Such people are powerless and do not have a choice in what was done to them. A victim role is a pattern of behaviors that an abusers uses to act like they are powerless, when actually they are in complete control and not powerless at all. All the while playing it off to us that they were the victim as they con us into believing all of the experiences happened to him as a victim, such and acts out that powerlessness in every situation and relationship. The Narc plays a role in being victimized, and does not make the choices that are available to keep it from happening. (This is when our internal “red light” warning signs are begging us to ask the Narc “what the hell were you thinking?” when they tell us the story about how poorly they were treated and victimized by their “crazy x wife” “crazy x girlfriend”) A victim does not see themselves as actors or agents, they see themselves as acted upon, and make sure they fed us every ounce of BS and lies to make us believe and feel sorry for them, and wonder “how could someone be so mean, how could someone be so cruel to another human being?” And here is some of the language that the Narc will frequently use to feed us with feeling bad for them, even when they are caught in the act by US or others. But wait, “We just ended up in bed” (failure to assume responsibility by saying, “I chose to sleep with_____________” or “I had to” instead of taking responsibility for their choices of whatever behavior you just caught them doing! The Narcs portrays themselves as the victim, and does not take responsibility for their choices, and behaviors. They refuse to take responsibility for their behavior, and actions. The Narc is not a victim, they are not innocent victims, they abuse us emotionally and mentally with their lies about all the BS that they tell us happened to them by past partners, spouses, relationships, jobs, co-workers, etc. When in reality they were in total power and knew it the entire time!! They purposefully and treated all relationships past and present like we are all a pawn in the Narcs game of life. …….. So with that being said, I refuse to be a VICTIM because we hold the power, we have a choice (once we realize the sociopathic Narcissistic Personality Disorder of the douche bag we are dealing with) I choose to take back my power and use it! We never really lost it, we just were so shocked that it went dormant and we need to assert our GOD given right to protect ourselves, or children and our family…… I realize that may not have completely made sense? But the point I was trying to make is. We may have temporarily been victimized (some longer than others) but we have to move away from referring to ourselves as victims, and think of ourselves as SURVIVORS, we need to focus on the healing process. We survived the NPD, we are here and we are alive, and we are rebuilding ourselves and our children every day. That makes us WARRIORS!!!! Warriors with the strips across our hearts to prove it, we are WARRIORS to speak out against the mental and emotional abuse that the Douche Bag Narcissists subject anyone they come in contact with. And I am a WARRIOR for the TRUTH and to educate and provide the information and empower other’s to be knowledgeable for the warning signs for the present relationship you may be in, or a future relationship you may be looking at with someone who just doesn’t seem right? Or so you know you are not the crazy one from a past relationship that has kept your head spinning ever since, and you are still being stalked, harassed, begged to come back, promised to change, and even went as far as telling you they miss you and have lost so much weight they “look great”! Really? All about them!!! Run, run far and run fast!!!! If an ended relationship is trying to be get back together by the Narc, and every sentence is about them in any way shape or form…………………..RUN…………….. ~Sparkle~
Posted on: Sat, 28 Sep 2013 14:41:09 +0000

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