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Group input needed: Can you post this anonymous to the group? I need advice... and probably a lot of bravery. Having some guilt issues now too. I have avoided detail for fear someone will see this and know its me. .... The ex suddenly wants more overnight visitation. I am very uncomfortable with this because his home is an unsafe living condition, (my opinion). I have researched and educated myself on the building codes and I believe there is a clear cut violation that I can use. I have always been concerned about the condition of the home (he inherited an old home and has been living in it while rehabbing - doing all the work himself over the course of years) and the authorities were even called once, but my ex is a cop and falls under the blue code of silence so they looked the other way. I felt at that time I had to concede and I did. I felt I was a terrible mother if I fought to keep my son from having overnight at his dads. I took solace in the fact that overnights are only 2x per month. Now that I am in a position where I have to draw a line and fight for no increased visitation (at least not at his home) for the safety of my son.... I am thinking that perhaps I was a bad mother for not fighting harder before and that I should seek ZERO overnight visitation. I am beating myself up over this but also still scared to try to fight him. In the past, I have never been allowed to have my day in court. Our judge never wanted to hear anything that anyone had to say and always shoved us off on various mediators. What would you do?
Posted on: Tue, 06 May 2014 14:29:48 +0000

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