Hello Everyone, ~ MARRIAGE OF THE HEART – Part 9 ~ In this series of articles, I have been working to share what we can share in a heart love relationship with another soul, as well as what we need to work on in our hearts and lives to accomplish this! Part 9 is going to focus on us setting boundaries in our lives and also respecting the boundaries of other people as well! When we VIOLATE the boundaries of other people, or we allow them to violate our boundaries, it creates a deep wound in our hearts that simply does not go away. Over time, it festers and grows and becomes a wall of self-defense in our heart. If we created the wound, then it becomes a wall between us. Now if we continue to violate this person over time, we simply lose them. It is deeply important for you and I to respect the boundaries of other people’s hearts and souls. We have to learn each day to become that person who will do no harm!! In becoming a person who will do no harm to another soul, we then become a safe haven for our spouse. We also become a safe haven for other souls as well. In setting boundaries, we also have to learn how to set boundaries to protect ourselves! For me, it has been much easier to respect the heart of other people than it has been to learn to set boundaries to protect my own heart. It then becomes difficult to enforce those boundaries when people will not respect them. My heart is fragile and very tender, yet people in my past have been very dominate with me and wanted to completely control my thoughts, my life, what I say and do. It has been a very long journey for me to learn to be me and say no to other people, to learn it is ok to tell someone you are hurting me and I am asking you to please stop. I then had to learn that when they would not choose to stop, for me to work to wall them out of my life and out of my heart! I would not do this out of anger but out of respect for my own heart, learning that it is ok to protect the tenderness of my heart and soul. If we do not protect our own heart, who will? Again, we have to work to become that soul who will do no harm! We have to learn to be kind and gentle with our words and our actions so that we can help other people to see that they have to respect our boundaries as well!! Facebook is a huge ocean of people all around the globe. To open my heart to such a wide and diverse ocean of people was not something that I have done easily, but I felt in order to help people heal, I had to give up part of who I was in being such a deeply private person! I was so shy in my past and so private, I swore I would never have a facebook page! I did not until October 2012. At times I have had some very hateful people make comments to me. There have been very few, but still very dark energy. I simply made a choice with this to block such people the first time they choose to slice my heart into many pieces. I choose to focus only on the thousands of people who have thanked me for all my articles and my heart! I share all of this because we have to learn to set boundaries in every area of our lives. We then have to learn to respect the boundaries other people set in their lives as well. This will also help me very deeply in the relationship with my spouse when I have one in my life. It has helped me to learn to become much healthier all the way around in how I live and what I choose to accept from people. I recently had to delete and block a friend from facebook after asking this person to give me some space and not email me three times every day, explaining that they were asking and expecting something from me I did not want to give. Finally, when I had shared this many times and they would not honor my heart, I simply had to unfriend them and block them from my life. This was not easy for me. My heart is naturally a place of do no harm to others so for me to stand up for myself and what I need is always very difficult simply because I do not want to hurt anyone else. I would rather take on the pain from someone else than hurt them. I would rather them hurt me than me hurt them somehow, but I have come to see this can only happen to a small degree or it is not healthy for me and damages my heart. This all applies to our most intimate relationships. As I learn to do this in all areas of my life, I will begin to be able to do this and have healthy boundaries in a personal relationship with my sweetheart. People in this world have become very out of balance. Most people are very dominating and want to dominate everyone around them, or else they are so tender and gentle, they tend to find other people dominating them in their lives! We have to find the balance and the courage to express our heart and our needs! We cannot violate the hearts of other people. At the same time, we cannot allow other people to violate our hearts either! This is so important both ways! We will not really mature into a very wise soul on any level until we learn this lesson in life about setting boundaries and respecting them as well. We have to become deeply sensitive to the boundaries of people’s hearts, the ones they are unable to express in words! This is one of the main things I see in relationships that causes them fall apart and fail. It is the violations of the boundaries of the heart! These are unstated needs we each have and we have to learn to read the heart of our loved one. They should not have to tell us everything they need, nor should we have to tell them everything we need. There is a sensitivity and love that comes with the compassion of the Divine that we each need to take into our heart and soul. For example, if you know that something is deeply important to your spouse and you know it will hurt them if you do not honor this area, then why in the world would you violate this sacred trust! A simple example is found in being faithful to the relationship!! When we make a vow and make a commitment to our sweetheart, then we should never allow ourselves to get into the situation that we cheat on them and have an affair with someone else! This creates such an unbelievable wound in our loved one, but people do this so easily; cheating on the loved one and then acting like nothing is wrong or to just keep lying and denying it like it never happened. This is an area that just does not go away. I can tell for the most part, when we are unfaithful in our relationship, our spouse feels it on a subconscious level. People can lie all they want, but it is always felt in the heart! We have to look at our spouse and determine what a violation of the heart and trust is for them, for it is different for each of us. Some things like cheating and having an affair are a violation to almost everyone, but all the little things that are really important to our sweetheart are what we have to learn to look at to be able to read and feel their heart. We also have to learn to be sensitive to the hearts and souls of other people as well! This sensitivity is the only way we can develop into a soul who will do no harm and not violate the hearts and souls of other people! If we will let go of the focus being on us all the time and work to see that it is not about me, mine and what I want all the time, that it is not about your career and you getting all the attention, if we truly want this heart love I have been sharing about, then we have to learn to let go of being selfish and come to a deep balance in our lives. We have to learn to put the needs of others first and then at the same time see that we have a balance and our sweetheart is doing the same thing for us as well. We also cannot allow our own heart to be put last all the time! What I have come to see that truly works and the love can be very deep between two souls is when they both work to put each other and their relationship first in every way possible. It is then, from this foundation of love and respect, they are able to plan their lives together and work to live in harmony with what they plan with each other! We cannot live completely separate lives and expect to have a healthy lasting relationship. Our boundaries with this deep love will harmoniously flow together to help us to grow and become the best two souls can become, as one in a deeply Divine love! As we learn to become that true soul who will do no harm, we will open ourselves up to the true power and healing of Divine love! Let us work to respect the heart boundaries of each soul around us! “DO NO HARM” With tender compassion! Aaron ------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Contact Info Website: spiritualhealing-enlightenment.us Email: aaronpierson777888@yahoo Videos: youtube/channel/UC1VPWru_32BIoPPBAKBgXxA?feature=watch Facebook: https://facebook/aaronwaynepierson You are also welcome to join my group “The Heart of Healing Maui” at facebook/groups/Muaihealing/ https://facebook/aaronpiersonhealingmaui -------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Posted on: Mon, 17 Mar 2014 21:03:20 +0000
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