I keep reading these #whyIstayed stories, and I truly do understand what theyre getting at; however, with all the talk being about male-on-female violence and no talk about female-on-male violence, the tired old men=abusers/women=victims stereotype is being reinforced once again. Since men make up half or more of all DV victims, I suggest all abused or formerly abused men put their stories up on #whyistayed, too. I have a friend whose story might be sumerized this way: I told a few people, and they laughed, so I quit telling anyone because I was ashamed. When the cops got called by the neighbors several times, they always made great effort to talk me out of pressing charges, so I came to understand that the law doesnt give a damn about male DV victims. When I called the local DV shelters, they either told me their services were for female victims, or called me a liar and hung up on me. I stayed because I was ashamed; I stayed because I had nowhere to go to with my children that would be safe, and I just couldnt leave my children alone in the hands of a violent abuser. I stayed because the law refused to do their job and arrest her. I stayed because nobody cares. Im a man, and the abuse of men doesnt matter. #whyistayed. Dont argue with them, just tell your story as they are telling theirs...if you dont, they will be successful in painting the DV debate as men=bad, women=good once again. Your silence is a weapon in the hands of female domestic abusers and a tool in the hands of all female-violence apologists who will use it to ensure men will continue to accept abuse with no help in sight, and nowhere to go.
Posted on: Thu, 11 Sep 2014 00:04:19 +0000
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