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I was reading about a viral blog post written by a newlywed. Seems everyone is inspired by the posts message. The author wrote that ...a true marriage (and true love) is never about you. Its about the person you love - their wants, their needs, their hopes, and their dreams. Selfishness demands, Whats in it for me? while Love asks, What can I give? We can all agree that in life in general it is always more rewarding to focus on what you can do to contribute to the happiness and well-being of the people you love; but I cant help wondering if the reason so many people get inspired by messages such as the one that has recently gone viral is because, at the end of the day, we can show it to our spouse and say, see, youre supposed to be doing for me. Thats what marriage is all about. Its about what youre giving. Its not about what youre getting. Its perfectly fine to share a message like this with your spouse if your purpose is to try to improve your marriage for both your sakes. But make sure you realize giving goes both ways and that you also need to be taking this message to heart. Its more important for you to get the message than for you to try to shove it down your spouses throat. Its important that you both agree with the message and both try to live by this idea. Most of the time we can point out everything our spouse isnt doing and all the ways they are failing us; but we cant see what were not doing and all the ways in which we are failing them. So even if they start abiding by the above creed, while we might start enjoying marriage more, they will begin to enjoy it less if were just being selfish takers. This idea doesnt work if one person is giving and giving and getting nothing back while the other is taking and taking and giving nothing in return.
Posted on: Wed, 06 Nov 2013 20:15:07 +0000

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