Its that time of year when I start reflecting: What did this year teach me? What was the greatest lesson or two? The greatest, most impactful lesson was this: I cant expect to be loved by someone who does not love himself. Period. Its not possible to give to someone else what you cannot give to yourself. I use to believe, pretty passionately, that love could heal all wounds. And I still believe that, with one caveat, my love cant heal someone elses wounds if they arent willing to heal their own wounds by loving their self. Thats a zero-sum game. And it drains your life force. Enough is never enough. So now, in every area of my life, not just my intimate relationships, I look for people who truly love who they are - those are the kind of people that I want in my new love life. Thats how to create a community of loving that is sustainable - which is how I want to spend my life...freely loving, loving people, to keep the flow of love swirling through the universe. My second lesson is this: every time I think I got this - the universe throws me a curveball. Really Chelli? You think you got it all figured out? How about this scenario? How about this person? Still feeling like you are all-knowing? The universe doesnt do this out of spite, quite the opposite, she does it out of love. Thats how she teaches me and keeps me rooted in my values and honest with myself. Humility is so important. Not pretend humility, the: Really, you think that of little old me? ;-) I mean humility that shows up like this: You got a the job youve being going after - first thought: Thank You God. You had a windfall of cash that was unexpected: Thank you God. You found someone to love and love you in return: Thank you God. You have the worlds most adorable dog who lights up your life: Thank you God. Its recognizing that you didnt do this alone. And whether it is God, Universe - whatever word you use to recognize a higher power, it is so important to recognize that there is a HIGHER power that is guiding us along the way. Im certain of this. There is no other plausible explanation as to why Im still here. And there are a million people with similar or worse stories. This is what I know for certain: I didnt do it alone. I had guardian angels both on earth and in heaven that helped me along my way. Thank you God. So today, think about what youve learned this year and if you are feeling open, feel free to share below...maybe your sharing will save someone else a lesson learned painfully. That is always my greatest hope when sharing with you all. Love, Light & Lessons ~Chelli
Posted on: Fri, 05 Dec 2014 16:36:35 +0000