I’m in a Relationship: Benefiting or Hurting? Linda was in a relationship with Tom and it was splendid at the onset. It all seems rosy not until she began to notice some backdrops in her academic performance. Soon afterwards, she wasn’t able to attend midweek service in church. When Tom is not in town, she’s seen all over with her phone. She now focuses more of her attention on how to make Tom happy even at the detriment of her life. Nothing good had Tom ever contributed to her life. Should this be her fate for being in a relationship? There are many people like linda in this kind of relationship. The purpose of a relationship is solely for mutual benefits to the parties involved. Whether business, marriage or any purpose to which a relationship was established for; it wasn’t meant to destroy, hurt or reduce your value if you ever found yourself in one. Have you ‘diagnosed’ your relationship lately? You’ll be lucky if you’re not yet married. You can either back out or have a fix to the relationship if it’s fixable. Run a quick scan on your relationship. Are you improving or experiencing some setbacks? A relationship is said to be hurting when it drains your time, energies, and resources or reduces your value. You shouldn’t be in a relationship where you’re tolerated but celebrated. Examine the progress of your life spiritually, academically, financially or in certain areas of your life ever since you’ve met him/her. If there’s little or no progress, then you have to consider whether it’s worth living for. When ‘supply’ is more than demand, there’s a problem. There must be equilibrium to what is benefited from a relationship. You’re benefiting in that relationship when your life experiences a gradual change due to the person you meet. If it adds value to your life or career, then it’s worth staying in. If there’s a contribution to the development of certain departments of your life, you’re in a good relationship. If you’re not helping each other, one party would be a parasite to the other. You must not enter a relationship full, drained and become empty. Back out of that relationship before it sucks life out of you if you notice any setback in your life. This article might just be the courage you need to do so. My dear, it may be a difficult thing to do but you’ll never regret you took the bold step. Time is short and you cannot afford to waste it on a progress- threatening relationship. There are lives you can touch positively when you channel your energies to the right thing. Quit that relationship now and focus on your life and future. It’s not a must to be in a relationship if it’s not adding value to your life. How were you able to get out of/maintain that hurting/beneficial relationship? Save a friend by sharing your experience
Posted on: Sun, 19 Oct 2014 10:57:04 +0000
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