*Mom Post* ((long)) I had posted something a while back and got some negative feedback, so I had been to the point when I saw new postings, I skipped and did not read them any longer. I was venting and It was not positive (in my opinion) that someone had said my husband needed to find another job since his Ex took him for nearly 50% of his income, taxes take out another 25% and by the time is is over, he brings home $300 a month. No, he does not only earn $600 a month and she gets 50%. He earns $2000 and she gets her chunk plus arrears (Based on his potential earnings of his degree and previous jobs in other states), then taxes and he is left with anywhere from $300 to $500 / month depending on if he works 6 days a week. He lost his job to no fault of his own a year ago. (The company disbanded and all clients went to another company in which they had their own employees to work the cases) He proved that to the courts. He would have loved to have stayed at that job. But even that job based on his degree was NOT what his potential earnings could have been. He was newest employee and first to go. His ex was using income from years previous when they lived in other states that do pay higher amounts. Our state does not pay that high. Even when they divorced, his income was close to or just within a few hundred dollars of what he is earning now with his degree in that job. Now, he is working at the family business because the day he lost his other job, without his mothers knowledge of him losing the job, she talked to him that very night and asked him if he could start helping her out with the business on his days off. We were shocked and was thanking God for a a prayer to be answered so quickly. She is 73 years old and is tired. He is her only child and his children are her only grand children. My husband is working there now to secure that for his childrens future. This was about the children. His Ex convinced the courts that he needs to quit the family business and find another job so she can get more money. Even if he was to quit, the business would go down and lose so much in the childrens future financially for their college and other lifes needs later on. So, my question is: Should he quit this business and leave his elderly mother alone to run this and get a job that his Ex thinks he should get, which will still not pay what she thinks he should get because no matter what position, it will still be starting at the bottom and the case workers type of jobs do not pay well unless you have specific degrees which my husband has his degree in sociology and juvenile justice. He has to have therapeutic degrees or various other ones to have those better jobs. They are degree specific in his areas. Very hard to find a job for a sociology major. I hate to say this, but statistically is true: Most case working jobs go to women, because even in that type of system, they prefer woman. Just because someone has their bachelors does not make it easy to find great paying jobs. Since he and I are married, I refuse to give up my job and move just to please her. I would have to start over and I will not do that. This is my home since moving to this state and bought my own home prior to us getting married 3 years ago. Since getting married, I had a very serious health issue and had both breasts removed. From that, I am clean and now struggling with another health issue stemming from that surgery. Yes, I get paid very well, but due to the Dr bills, medical devices having to purchase and constant physical therapy etc, my income is very low after all my medical costs. So, she thinks just because I earn good money, that we can live just off mine and she should get all of his for child support, child care, medical bills etc. She is trying to get it where he has no money. She literally earns nearly twice as much as he and I put together. So when I say I earn good money, her is double what he and I earn together. So between her income and my husbands amount he gives her, she is raking in way over 100K a year while we are struggling. RP ~Missy This page is for Advice and Support. No Bashing.
Posted on: Tue, 19 Nov 2013 17:26:40 +0000