Mom past a way on Oct 17 2012 at 10:00 pm but had to wait for the nurse to come to pronounce her deceased. It took the nurse till the next morning for her to come pronounce mom deceased on Oct 18 2012 wee hours of the morning and mom was one who did not like to wait. See mom was a military wife and in the military it is hurry up and wait .mom was on the go all the time tell I had to take her car a way from he she ran it tell it was red hot mom like to see new thing’s and places in her life time she had been to Germany Italy Greece Korea and being from Alabama she did not meet a Stranger. And the saddest part of Alzheimer’s is it steals one’s Identity and personality and all that is left is the shell of the person so you see you lose them twice I wrote this Article To get people to thank about the elderly they deserve our love and respect in their declining years they have so much to teach us if we would just spend the time talking to them So please share some time with some one you know or go to an old folks home and talk to some one there some old folks don’t have any one to talk to and it would brighten their day and yours mom tried to bring a smile to people faces So on the second Anniversary of mom going home to the Lord I say be blessed and be a blessing to others miss you mom LOSING MOM TWICE For quite some time I have been concerned about the plight of the elderly in our society. The negative attitudes toward the viability of their lives have brought great concern to me. The reality of these attitudes and what they can and do mean for the elderly came home to me in a very personal way when I brought my 76 year old Mother, who has Alzheimer’s, to my home to live with me. When it became evident that my mother needed 24 hour skilled nursing care, she had to be placed in a nursing home. This was a decision that broke my heart because it was my intent and desire for her to live with me for the rest of her life. The events that followed her entering the nursing home have only served to galvanize my belief that, generally speaking, the old, infirmed and disabled are given very little regard in today’s society. There are those government agencies put in place to help our senior citizens, but those agencies seem to operate inconsistently in both scope and function. I found it very difficult to glean any information about services that are available to seniors. My mother had to be hospitalized and made the transition from there to a nursing home. During that transition Medicare overpaid her and rather than adjusting the following month’s check, the overpayment was deducted from my disability check, because I am her guardian. After entering the nursing home, Mother has had numerous infections, become dehydrated, has been over medicated and suffered several falls. When we would visit, she would sometimes be un-bathed and her clothes would be dirty, not to mention that many articles of her clothing were missing. It was hard for me to get any definitive answers from the nursing home staff and administration about anything, including my mother’s condition. It is hard to deal with Alzheimer’s patients at best, but rough treatment can make them lash out in return. My mother has had several episodes of lashing out physically toward other patients. I believe that rough treatment directed toward her contributed to her combative actions. The nursing home Dr. wanted to send Mother, yet again, to a behavioral center for treatment. I was made aware that some of the staff at the behavioral center wondered why the nursing home could not or would treat my mother in house since they could do the same thing for her at the home as they would do for her at the center. I had wondered the same thing and because of that I refused to let her be sent back to the behavioral center. This refusal was met by the nursing home’s doctor’s demand to send her. The doctor’s demand had precedence over my wishes and she was sent anyway. Following that she was essentially evicted from the nursing home. Statistics state that in 2003, 1.4 million of the people in the US were nursing home residents, there were 20,673 complaints of gross neglect and exploitation of nursing home “board and care” residents, only 1 in 14 of elder abuse incidents were reported to authorities and 90% of all US nursing homes were too understaffed to provide adequate care. We in this nation need to take a close, heart- felt, hard look at our attitudes, programs, agencies and values as regards to out elderly, infirmed, and disabled. THIS IS REV.C.W. BOLING OF ONLYBYGRACE MINISTRIES
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