Mommy Follow Up: I have a problem. I HATE breast feeding. I thought it was supposed to be so rosy and wonderful - its not. My baby feeds for an hour, I cant get anything done, my body STILL isnt my own after being pregnant for 9 months. And did I mention it HURTS?! It hurts so bad when she latches on that I cry. And it hurts the whole way through the feeding. I reposition and re-latch and try all sorts of things NOTHING is helping. I take pain medication JUST so I can feed my daughter. My baby does have a lip tie. I showed it to 2 different doctors and they both dismissed it. She is also pretty tiny (she was barely 6# when born) and I seem to have very prominent large nipples. I find that I am avoiding feeding her (I KNOW that is bad, but I just DREAD it so very much) My breasts dont become engorged. I know she is getting enough to eat, she has plenty of wet/poopy diapers, and she has gained weight well. Can I do something so she doesnt take an hour to feed? What can I do for the pain? I attached a picture of her lip tie. What are your thoughts on it? FOLLOW UP: I wanted to reply to my question you posted on july 5th but still wish to be anon. (how I hated breast feeding and I was having issues, also with the lip tie) I really DO want to BF for a number of reasons. 1 That it is best. 2. No packing bottles, milk on demand. 3. I wanted the bonding. 4 isnt this what my body was designed to do? And while I do want my body back it isnt because I am unwilling to feed, it is the TIME that each feeding takes. When I calculated the amount of time it was taking to feed her every day, it was about 8hrs of feeding alone (see motherhood IS a full time job and that is just the feeding alone!) I was/am frustrated at that length of time and that I cant seem to get anything else done. I expected housekeeping to suffer a bit ETC. I didnt expect it to cease entirely. (among other things) My daughter is just now 3 weeks old. I decided to make an appt with an ENT for my daughter ASAP, as I feel the pediatricians were just dismissing my issues. I am very attuned to my body and my baby, and this just doesnt seem right. so we have circumvented the peds and gone straight to the ENT. I think the raynauds might be some of my pain issues here. I and my baby were treated for thrush this week as well with no improvement on pain. My MW does lactation consulting, I saw her too, and she agreed that my baby has a severe enough lip tie that it needs tended too. I also went to WIC. The lactation consultant there had never heard of a lip tie, but when I showed it to her, and we examined her latch, it is obvious that her tie is preventing her upper lip from flanging out the way it should, no matter how I latched or relatched, positioning didnt help. She also suggested that I get the tie tended to. WIC gave me a hand pump, and I am pumping a few times a day in addition to BFing. I give her a bottle around midnight (with about 3oz of BM in it) and then top her off with a breast or two (I feel this is more comfort for her, than a top of per sey) this allows her to sleep almost 4 hrs before she wants another feeding. Sleeping more is helping me feel more sane..... In addition, we discussed her excessive spitting up. We think she might have a milk allergy, so I am milk free for 2 weeks to see if it helps her. (though she was never fussy, just spit up and aspirated often!) She was also having green, mucusy stool. So if it isnt a milk allergy it could be a fore/hind milk imbalance. So exploring that issue as well. In the meantime I am taking Ibuprofen and lortab (alternating) for pain as well as warm compresses (anything even a little cold sets off the raynauds in a really bad way - warm is the only way to go) I do have an issue with depression (I am on meds for it) I have my family and friends watching me closely and I have an appointment with my psych dr coming up as I was proactive before my kiddo was born due to being terrified of having PPD. So any potential baby blues or depression should be addressed soon. Oddly enough breast feeding didnt hurt initially, (it was quiet pleasant and could actually be said to have felt good initially) it just keeps getting worse, this indicates to me that something isnt right. So hopefully I will soon figure it out. I appreciate both the encouragement to continue, and the OK that if I dont that I am not a bad person. (suck it up and deal comments arent all that helpful I must say) I appreciate everyones wisdom and it has given me a good jumping off point in which to get help (for instance I never even considered the WIC people, even though I participate with WIC) Thanks all for your comments and suggestions, I really did take them to heart.
Posted on: Fri, 15 Aug 2014 05:22:30 +0000
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