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{New post} Guilt. Shame. Remorse. Self-digust. Mental berating. Weve all felt these negative emotions before, and dare I say, that sometimes we actually find usefulness in them? When I was deeply in the all-or-nothing dieting cycle, I clung to these emotions because it felt like without them, I was somehow condoning the behaviors that produced them. For example, after a weekend of non-stop overindulgence and binging, I’d wake up Monday morning with all kinds of mental beat-downs ready to go because it felt like the only way to motivate myself to do better this week. Remorse and self-disgust felt like the only rational motivator because the alternative — self-compassion, giving myself the benefit of the doubt, gratitude for my journey, acknowledging my humanity, whatever — seemed like saying that what just happened was okay. And so another week of deprive-then-binge would ensue. The ironic thing? The emotions I was clinging to because I felt like they were serving me WERE ACTUALLY KEEPING ME IN THE YO-YO CYCLE. On one hand I needed them because the alternative felt like an impossibility, but at the same time, the outcome (all-or-nothing approach) remained the same: every week, I would still binge come Friday. So, to recap: the exact operating system I was reluctant to give up was keeping me in a behavior pattern that I wanted to change. Hmm, what’s that saying about insanity again … ? ;) In this new post, I share an interview with positive psychology powerhouse Shawn Achor about the utility of negative emotions (surprisingly, theres a place for them, but its not what you think!) and how to cultivate a positivity mindset in any situation, plus much more! Enjoy! And let me know what you think! Xo, Jill jillfit/2014/12/09/positivity/
Posted on: Wed, 10 Dec 2014 11:30:01 +0000

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