Pay him or her a compliment. A sincere compliment from the heart can be a subtle way of letting your loved one know how much you admire him or her. Pick out a nice physical feature (eyes and smile are always solid choices), personality trait or action to highlight. Whatever you choose, it should be something that makes the recipient feel happy and worthy. Know how to deliver a romantic compliment. Though the content of the compliment itself is nice, how you say it counts for a lot. Make the tone romantic by maintaining eye contact and keeping a half smile as you talk - it will make you naturally add appealing inflection to your voice. (Try this trick out when you answer the phone sometime and see if you notice a difference.) Keep the tones of your voice up, but lower the actual volume - speaking softly immediately communicates intimacy, and it can make people lean in closer to hear you. If this all sounds a bit difficult, practice it in front of a mirror. Its a good technique to know. Ad Express Your Feelings to the One You Love Step 2 Version 2.jpg 2Express consideration. Part of loving someone is wanting whats best for him or her. You can highlight this attitude by asking after your loved ones welfare. For instance, if you know he or she had a hard day yesterday, quietly ask how today is going. If youre running an errand, ask if you can pick up anything for your loved one while youre out. If he or she is facing a particularly difficult situation, communicate that youd be glad to help out in anyway you can. Using your words to show how much you care can go a long way. Express Your Feelings to the One You Love Step 3 Version 2.jpg 3Say I love you. While you dont necessarily have to do this, it is the clearest way of communicating that you love someone. Here are some tips on making the experience more meaningful: Do it in person. Telling someone you love them over text, email or IM doesnt have the same impact as actually saying it out loud. If you cant handle being in that persons presence as you say it, do it over the phone. Manage your expectations. Dont let the experience hinge on whether or not the other person says it back. You should be saying it because you want to let him or her know how you feel, not because you need validation or expect something in return. Focus on being happy that youre able to express your feelings and make someone else feel admired. Pick the right time. Ideally, the moment that you tell someone you love them should be intimate and free of interruption. Pick a setting in which you can express yourself without feeling embarrassed or worried about someone else intruding. Keep the conversation low-pressure. Some people might see an I love you as indicating a higher level of commitment. Dont automatically assume the other person is ready to take the relationship to a closer level. Instead, preface your words by saying that youre not asking for anything in return and that you dont want the other person to feel pressured. This will help him or her enjoy the moment without worrying about what might be coming next. Maintain eye contact. It might seem terrifying to look into his or her eyes while you spill your guts, but try to do it. It will make you seem more honest and sincere, as well as enhancing the closeness of the moment. Dont allow an awkward silence. If the person you adore is quiet after your confession, find a way to start up normal conversation again. Say something like, You dont have to say anything back. Im just happy I could let you know how I feel and carry on as usual. If a reply is coming, it will happen in its own time. Method 2 of 2: Non-Verbal Expressions Express Your Feelings to the One You Love Step 4 Version 2.jpg 1Write a nice letter. You dont have to explicitly write I love you in the note, but you can outline the things you admire about the other person. A lot of people prefer to write down their feelings because it allows you time to revise your words so that theyre just right. If possible, write your feelings down with a pen and paper instead of on a computer. Your unique handwriting adds a personal touch to the letter, and he or she might like to have a physical object that represents your feelings. Before you start, write a small brainstorm of all the things you like or admire about him or her. Note close experiences youve shared, or things that remind you of the other person. Grab a good sheet of paper. If you dont have stationary lying around, use copy paper - it will look neater than note paper. Express Your Feelings to the One You Love Step 5 Version 2.jpg 2Make eye contact. Whenever you can, meet the other persons eyes. Dont stare after him or her constantly, but do allow yourself to be caught looking at his or her face once in a while. When youve been detected, smile a little bit and hold the gaze for another second before looking away. Express Your Feelings to the One You Love Step 6 Version 2.jpg 3Show your feelings through your actions. Non-verbal cues can count for a lot, and allow someone to see how you feel without putting yourself out there too much. Here are some possibilities: Smile. The best thing you can do is also the easiest - throw your loved one a sincere smile whenever you can. Whenever you do, try to hold his or her eyes for slightly longer than a second. Make your body language seem receptive. A side effect of being nervous around this person might be that your body language seems closed off or unapproachable. Try to reverse this by keeping your arms unfolded, and your arms loose at your sides or clasped behind your back. Turn your body toward the other person when youre talking to them, including your feet. Incline your head toward them when you make eye contact. Dont worry about blushing. You cant control when you blush anyway, but if you find yourself doing it around him or her, just go with it. In a way, a blush is a useful signal to the other person letting them know how you feel - so let it do its work! Wink. If you can manage it, try to throw him or her a sly wink every now and then. Dont do it too often - no more than once every few days. Express Your Feelings to the One You Love Step 7.jpg 4Try a few light physical touches. Initiating physical contact with someone lets him or her know you want more closeness. Start small, by walking or sitting near the other person. If that goes well, try touching his or her arm lightly during a conversation. Other possibilities after that include putting an arm around the other persons shoulders, playfully bumping into him or her with the side of your hip, and playing footsie. Express Your Feelings to the One You Love Step 8.jpg 5Do small favors without a word. Sometimes, the best favor is one you dont have to even ask for. If you know for sure that he or she needs something done or would appreciate a certain gesture, just do it. When the other person discovers your deed, just smile. If you have to make a comment, say I wanted to help you or Youre welcome. Dont make it into a big discussion - let the action stand alone and communicate how much you care.
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