SOLEMNIZATION OF HOLY MATRIMONY POINTS TO CONSIDER FOR A BLISSFUL MARRIAGE BY PASTOR PAUL THOMPSON INTRODUCTION Many have believed that marriage is for better for worse and have through this belief destroyed their marital relationship. Proverbs 4:18 But the path of the just is as the shining light,that shineth more and more unto the perfect day. We do not subscribe to that. However, we believe that marriage is for better for best. It is what you believe that works for you. The under listed points will help you make for a blissful marriage if practically applied: POINT NUMBER ONE: DONT WITHHOLD LOVE AND AFFECTION Dont use your love and affection as a weapon to get your own way. God has given specific instructions about the physical relationship between husband and wife. 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence:and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband:and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency. POINT NUMBER TWO: LISTEN TO ONE ANOTHER. Keep the lines of communication open. Few things can be more detrimental to a marriage than the refusal of one of the partners to discuss problems. Work it out together if you can, but dont hesitate to get outside help in the form of Christian counseling if it is required. POINT NUMBER THREE: DONT NEGLECT YOUR SPOUSE It is easy especially for a mother to become so involved in raising the children that she neglects her husband. Long after the children have left home, you will need each other. A loving relationship must be built while the children are growing up. POINT NUMBER FOUR: COME TO AN AGREEMENT ABOUT THE HANDLING OF FINANCES. The handling of money is the root of many problems in a marriage. There is need to be transparent in the handling of money and the way it is spent. Sometimes managing the money is a joint effort, but sometimes one partner is better equipped to handle the family finances. The other partner needs to defer to the one with this gift. 1 Timothy 6:10 For the love of money is the root of all evil:which while some coveted after, they have erred from the faith, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows. Amos 3:3 Can two walk together, except they be agreed? POINT NUMBER FIVE: BE CONCERNED ABOUT THE HEALTH OF YOUR SPOUSE Be concerned about the health of your spouse if really want to enjoy your relationship for many years. 1 Corinthians 6:19 What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? 1 Corinthians 3:16 Know ye not that ye are the temple of God, and that the Spirit of God dwelleth in you? POINT NUMBER SIX: GIVE EACH OTHER ROOM FOR INDIVIDUAL GROWTH The largest room in the world is the room for improvement. Each partner will have personal likes and dislikes. One may be a sports fan, the other may not. Not all things have to be shared. POINT NUMBER SEVEN: BE WILLING TO SAY, IM SORRY Swallow your pride and be willing to admit it when you are wrong. Truly mean it, and try to make improvements. POINT NUMBER EIGHT: BE WILLING TO FORGIVE AND FORGET Sometimes its hard to forgive when you have been wronged by your mate. Even though you wont forget the wrong, try to forgive in your heart and rebuild your relationship. Matthew 6:14-15 For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses. POINT NUMBER NINE: IF POSSIBLE ARRANGE FOR THE WIFE AND MOTHER TO BE IN THE HOME Make every effort to have the mother available in the home during the years when the children are growing up. A working mother with young children is actually holding down two full time jobs. She has little time nor energy left for her husband at the end of the day. Titus 2:4-5 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. POINT NUMBER TEN: SUPPORT EACH OTHER IN THE DISCIPLINING OF YOUR CHILDREN. As parents you need to present a united front for your children. Failure to do so will cause the marriage and the children to suffer. Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go:and when he is old, he will not depart from it. POINT NUMBER ELEVEN: MAKE POSITIVE REMARKS ABOUT YOUR MATE TO FRIENDS AND FAMILY. Hold your spouse in high esteem and let your family and friends know how much you value the love of your life. If you hold your spouse in high esteem that is how your family and friends will hold you in high esteem. Your sense of value will determine the flow of virtue to you. RECEIVE GRACE IN JESUS NAME, AMEN!!!
Posted on: Sat, 02 Nov 2013 09:16:43 +0000
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