Six months ago I found out that someone I held in very high regard participated in a particularly cruel act of bullying against me back in high school. I knew about some of the other participants, but not this person. This was someone that I believed was just so talented in so many ways, and was such a good person that they would never do something as cruel as this, not just to me but to anyone. In the intervening years, every time I have run into this person they have treated me with, if not outright contempt, coldness, and I always wondered why. I still wonder why, because to my knowledge I never once did anything to this person except befriend them, encourage them to develop their talents, and support them whenever possible. When the someone told me about this persons participation, I was devastated. I talked it over with a dear friend, and I expected her to say It was 30 years ago. Get over it. Instead, she said Let it lie for six months. If youre still upset about it, confront them. Write them an email and tell them how they made you feel. Then you can let it go. Tonight I wrote the email, read it...reread it, then erased it. They arent worth my time. They obviously werent worth my admiration then, and even with all that talent theyve done very little with their life. So today, on my 51st birthday, I let it go. It was stupid of me to hold onto it as long as I did. And I feel so much better now!
Posted on: Sat, 16 Nov 2013 01:27:47 +0000
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