So my wife hit me the other day. I only say this because we have mutual facebook friends and she posted something about possessive husbands... I didnt hit back, but I asked her calmly not to hit me. The last time I yelled at her I only yelled, dont raise your voice at me because she was yelling at me. I stopped yelling immediately after that and talked calmly. But now she says my tone doesnt meet her approval. Sometimes I curse, sometimes she curses. But to her saying jerk is a curse word and gets mad at me for it. Even when I say I was a jerk and Im apologizing. She glares and scolds. She told me she was going to train me to say yes. Cause I say no to buying anything after the first few months of buying everything. I usually buy it anyways. She said we were rich and that I shouldnt pay so much attention to all the money flying out the window (paraphrasing). I havent saved a penny since weve been married. Of course shell say its cause I buy $60 video games here and there and not because I bought her two $300 purses for her birthday as she requested (thats not all by the way). She publicly berated me in front of common acquaintances because of stupid things twice. First neighbors, saying I beat her when I tapped her with a throw pillow on the back of the calf to get her attention while she was laying down. The second she told the RCIA class I scolded her and asked them if I should confess that as a sin. I had just emphasized on the way to RCIA that she should try to be ready on time so we can make it to RCIA on time and not go outside to water plants. She always threatens that shell leave me. She got upset when I hugged a friend a while back. Havent hugged anyone non-family since. I literally have to tell people(family/friends) to take of their shoes before coming into my home or I get yelled at even if its because its difficult for them to take off thier shoes. To the point where I avoid having people over because its not worth the trouble. I tried to get movers to take off their shoes or put plastic bags on them per my wifes instructions but they had OSHA regulations or something. She glared at me and them the whole time. Im surprised she didnt send back the furniture. I bought the house she wanted. If it was too big it would be too hard to clean. It had to be new looking. No fixer uppers. Didnt like land. She would pave our entire lawn if I caved and let her have her way. She hates grass. My neighbors should thank me for keeping up the fight. Can you imagine? Just driveway and house. She had to have $400 allowance every month or there was an argument. Even if i didnt have $400 after all the bills and buying stuff for her.Then theres stuff about she wouldnt iron no matter what. She wasnt working at the time. I said what else are you gonna do with your time. She didnt like that, so I iron even though she stayed home. Weve always had a robot vacuum. Ive always taken out the garbage. She wont touch it. Ill buy her some outdoor Nick nacks and shell put them by the fire place in an artsy manner, but rendering the fireplace unusable. I used to work out... If I got up early to workout without her, when she found out, she would make me feel guilty for not including her. And she wouldnt wake before 10 am while she was staying at home. Now on the weekend, she wont wake up before noon. No exercise classes before noon. 5oclock mass cause noon mass is too early even when I protest to go earlier cause schedules conflict. I bought a few things for the rabbit, and she makes me feel guilty that I didnt buy her something by saying I treat the rabbit better than her. I said I buy you clothes, I buy you groceries, I buy you furniture, I bought you a house. Ive taken her to new York, Ive taken her to Branson, Ive taken her to Omaha, Ive taken her to st Louis just since February, but she complains about not getting to travel. She threatened to go with someone else by herself if I didnt go on the Omaha trip. Now she threatening to go alone or with friends the weekend of Thanksgiving (which happens to be my birthday) It was really odd. But Im controlling, Im possessive cause I dont want her to go on vacations with other guys without me. I mean really. My dad said hell no when I said if he thought that was appropriate. She holds to this belief that Im a bad guy. When I met her she said she was just broke up with a guy and that his mother was really bad to her. And now I know his mom was protecting him from her like my moms trying to with me. I mean all the things in the signs of possessive husbands I can give you an example of what she has done to me. I keep thinking that if I just dont fight it shell get better. If I dont yell back, shell stop yelling. Im losing any bit of myself I have. She used to yell at me cause I wouldnt marry her, then she used to yell at me cause I wouldnt buy the house she wanted, then she used to yell at me cause I wouldnt get the visa paperwork done, then it was the green card paperwork, then it was not showering twice a day, then it was this, then it was that. Im really getting tired of being yelled at. Recently she told me to call her queen. She cant consummate the marraige cause she has medical problems. Doctor says its usually a sign of childhood abuse. Ive been patient, but you cant have kids without. So she wants to put a link on her page that insinuates that Ive done wrong by her eh? Im possessive? Im controlling? Youre killing me smalls. You are literally killing me!
Posted on: Thu, 16 Oct 2014 04:02:25 +0000
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