This. Article. Is. SMASHING! :D Until I met my husband, I thought I was monogamous ... but that was only because I had been shamed into believing all of the things pointed out in this article (poverty consciousness, hatred, exclusivity, exclusion, etc. -- but they were just turds wrapped in the pretty paper (lies) called Romantic, Prince Charming, Fidelity, and Ownership). My darling husband gently reminded me of who I truly am, over about a 4-year period, and now I have the best relationship I could have ever imagined (and better) with him, because he is so loving toward me, inclusive, truly friendly and loving toward my partners, and generous! He shows TRUE compersion when he sees me hug or kiss one of my lovers, and he wants happiness for me, however I choose it, with whomever I choose (and who mutually chooses me). As a polyamorous, married woman who has 3 partners (including my husband -- and he has 5 partners, including me), I have to say that this article hits the nail on the head. I find that people who cling to monogamy, and dont question why so many people cheat, as though cheating is a character flaw or weakness of some sort, are the ones who take the most issue with non-monogamy. I also find it interesting that people who consider themselves and many other people to be monogamous do not consider that if they have never had a successful polyamorous or at least monogamish relationship, they simply cannot speak accurately to this subject. How can one defend one side of a subject when one does not know both sides completely? That is not informed debate. If youve never tried polyamory, then the best answer (and most responsible and honest, as well) is to say, I have been trained that monogamy is the best, natural and only way to live/love, but I simply dont know that, because I have never tried anything else. How can one adequately argue against a peanut butter and jelly sandwich when one has only had egg salad? Ive never hang-glided. Therefore, I cannot honestly say that my opinion is that walking is better. I can simply say only, I have walked, but not hanglided, so my vision/ideas of hang-gliding are limited. I am fearful of trying that new thing, or have no desire at this time to try it at this time, but I cannot form an educated opinion on it.
Posted on: Mon, 25 Nov 2013 21:34:39 +0000
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