This has come up in three separate groups. Each with a different ‘conclusion’. I take a ‘road less traveled by,’ and will ‘respond’. The following is a statement about what I see based on my perspective and what I know. This is not a criticism of what you see based on your perspective and what you know. This is what riding with boundaries looks like. All he is doing is setting boundaries. Telling the horse “where not to go”. The resistance you see is the horse’s own resistance to the boundaries. Which are impeccable. The horse has the experienced history with this man that these boundaries can be trusted. Trusted in the way that the horse has control over his own resistance to the boundaries. Self “control over his own resistance” and the trust that the boundaries are reliable. This is neither ‘positive reinforcement’ nor ‘negative reinforcement’. Neither punishment nor reward. Both in self-carriage. Both self responsive. This is simply a demonstration of boundary management. The horse has control, freedom of choice, over his own resistance. Klaus is telling the horse “where not to go”. Allowing the horse to find the open door. He’s not even ‘pushing’ (asking) the horse to go. He is just maintaining (managing) the boundaries. And there is nothing on the horse’s head. Neither bit nor bitless. Any consternations that Klaus has/had about posting this piece is that to the uninformed eye it ‘looks’ like he is fighting with the horse. It looks like he is giving the horse ‘aids’ to do something (i.e. back up). It looks like he has a method to ‘control’ the horse. it likes he is pushing buttons. This clip allows the viewer to break it down into a “how to” video. And that is not what it is at all! This is what it looks like to have impeccable boundaries! Klaus himself! And he has had enough time with this horse that the horse KNOWS this (comes from consistency) and can trust it. The horse now knows, in his relationship with this man, that the he (the horse) has total control over his own resistance. The horse is already empowered and knows himself and his own ‘ability to respond’ and freedom of choice. The horse is in self-carriage. Our (not Klaus’s) weakness is our own dependence on controlling another. We think we need ‘positive’ (treats) or ‘negative’ (whips and bits) to “teach” the horse to respond. Respond in the way that we “need” them to respond. WE are the ones that are not self-responsive. WE are the ones not in self-carriage. WE are the ones not in control of our own boundaries. Self-carriage/empowerment will feel/look like abandonment or fighting to the dependent. When it is actually the Ultimate Freedom. Freedom of Choice. Self responsible choice. Breaking free of our dependence on control is NOT pretty. Which is why I leave discussions when they get all soft and fluffy - airy fairy. Learning (and teaching) self responsibility (self carriage) is not pretty. It is a withdrawal from a dependency. (think of Plato’s Cave allegory) (are we ‘dependent’ on the teacher giving us the answers?) https://youtube/watch?v=4Ud8v6y3Sh4
Posted on: Sun, 09 Nov 2014 17:21:55 +0000
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