This year I am making a fresh start. Last year I mainly focused - TopicsExpress



          

This year I am making a fresh start. Last year I mainly focused on trying to pull other people through their problems, dramas, addictions and insecurities, out of commitment and love. You cannot love a person and make them feel whole, they have to love themselves and unfortunately some never will. Its sad, and you just wish that they saw in themselves what you see in them. You also cannot make someone let go of the past, they have to want to drop that victim mentality and some thrive on being the victim. It becomes their identity and they know no other way to be. Taking responsibility for ones life is not easy for some, but I find it necessary for growth. Its unhealthy to constantly be the only support one has, and the whole of their life, and the place where they draw their self esteem. Its maddening and draining. This past year I learned that in doing that, and being that for someone else, I was an enabler and a crutch and I also learned that the most loving thing that I could do for them--real love-- not hearts and flowers and reminiscing over your first date--was to let them learn to love themselves. If you love someone you want them to be fulfilled and happy and whole and healed on their own. You cannot do it for them, although God knows I tried. I had to learn that it is not selfish of me to let go, and that sometimes letting go is the most loving thing one can give. When I love, I love deeplyand I am a committed friend, always, no matter what happens or how many years roll by, and although it may get frustrating when people give up on their lives, and you have to save yourself, the love remains and always will. No one can continue to give and give to someone who cannot accept it because they do not feel worthy. So, with that being said, this year I am turning the tables and practicing self love, which is a somewhat new concept for me, but I have been practicing little by little for the whole of the year in 2014. I think I have made great progress, and it took a lot of strength to realize that I deserve relationships where both partners are whole, not victims of the past, and also feel they deserve happiness, because I do. Thank you for listening, friends, and for continued support
Posted on: Sun, 04 Jan 2015 16:13:30 +0000

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