When I was finishing high school, way back in the late 1970s, we were expected to know what we wanted to do with our entire lives, come up with a career and train for it, prepare for a lifetime of doing one particular thing! And there was an expectation that having chosen that one career path we would work in that for the rest of our lives and enjoy it! There was a great deal of pressure on us at 17 and 18 to know who we were and what we wanted to do and be in the world! These days the pressure is somewhat lessened and there is some definite understanding that many people will have more than one, in fact several careers in their lives and that is not a measure of some sort of failure like it used to be. In fact there is a real sense and growing understanding that no one really knows at 17 or 18 what they want to achieve, or what they CAN achieve in their entire lives. The pressure is off. I welcome this kind of lightening up of things and the way it gives us permission to grow and change and reinvent ourselves as we do so! And I love how we can do this, not just in our working life but in our entire lives! Every day is not just a new day with new opportunities, but a new chance to decide who we want to be in the world. We get to decide EVERY SINGLE DAY OF OUR LIVES who we want to be........ We can decide to be the survivor, or the victim. The one who suffers in silence or the one who decides to take control of life and find the answers we need. We can decide to roll over and give up or that we are bigger than that and can find a way through whatever is hard. We can decide to deal with our past and stop letting it control our present. We can decide to be the hero in our own story. Who do you want to be? What is your preferred way of being and doing in your life and what makes it hard for you to do and be that? What things do you want to do differently and what do you need to do so that you can? I used to define myself by the losses in my life - I was a victim of abuse - I was a single mum, I was a survivor, I was a battler. Even in the best of lights these are still somewhat negative expressions. When I began recovery I began to appreciate that I could also define myself based, not on what I had lost, but on the new ground I was gaining - I was recovering. I was a recovering co-dependant. I was not what I had lost, I was who I was choosing to become despite those losses. These days I define myself based, not so much on the losses of my life, but on what those losses brought me - on what those losses allowed me to become that I would never have explored without them! I define myself in the positive not the negative! How do you see YOURSELF? Who are you and who do you desire to be in the world? What is your best version of yourself and how can you let him/her shine through? Love and hugs ~ Sue
Posted on: Mon, 12 Jan 2015 22:25:00 +0000
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