While this is a good article, it falls short in a lot of areas and is not really the whole picture. Yes, moms more than likely are the ones to get up with their children at night, but if the fathers did it, the mother would still be awake and stressed just as much as if she had gotten up. Hearing your child cry for the length of time it would take the the father to get out of bed, get the baby, make it a bottle and soothe it or feed it back to sleep is just as bad and it gives the mother a sense of urgency to do something, but is restraining herself from doing something because dads got it. As a mother I might as well get up and nurse the baby quickly, ease that feeling of urgency and go back to bed, it would be less stress, less time awake, and I wouldnt have a cranky sleep deprived husband. So while the article is correct in its statement, it doesnt mention that the other option of having dad do the night time waking hours really wouldnt help anyway, so its not exactly his fault. Also, I agree with the statement about moms preferring to do the dishes while dad entertains the kids. And John is awesome at understanding this, after dinner he gives them a bath while I clean up and have a few moments of peace, but I am still working, and its fabulous. I feel a greater sense of accomplish and stress relief to see a physical measurable task completed for my time and effort spent then direct time with the kids that doesnt also show payoff until much later. While I do love my time with the kids, it is nice to see an immediate positive result from a task once in a while. Messy kitchen, to clean kitchen, a.. thats nice. I am not so sure men do work the same number of hours. I start working before my husband is out of bed, continue working all day, then have a break while I fall asleep the first few hours of the night, then work another hour at least awake with the kids in the middle of the night, then start all over again. While my husband contributes equally to the family as he does help with the kids and chores and supports our family financially very well, I dont think he does work and equal amount of hours. I am not complaining about the uneven hours worked though. Child rearing is hard work, long hours, and no monetary pay, but I would not be able to raise my children in a nice home, go on fun memory making outings with them, feed them good nutrious meals, and educate them if my husband was not at work, ya know, working for a paycheck. I am certain he would rather be spending those hours at home making memories with the children, but he sacrifices that to provide a good living for us. I would not trade places with him.
Posted on: Sat, 01 Feb 2014 08:10:21 +0000
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