Zane, i read your posts daily and thought maybe you could give me some helpful advice. i am 18 years old and the mother of 2 amazing children. I know this will get negative comments just know what you say does not hurt me.. my oldest child is 3 years old. I had him young but i wouldnt change a thing about it. My youngest is 5 months. My sons father isnt around and never has met him. But i am currently with my daughters father. Up until she was about 3 months old he was amazing. He worked hard for us and provided for us. He never did want me to work which i didnt understand because i do want to work and help provide for my kids. Well he started getting very controling like i say around the time my daughter turned 3 months old. He would go through my phone didnt want me to talk to this person or that. And now its to the point he has attacked me on more then one occasion. And verbally went after my son just this morning. I have no guys at all on my facebook or in my phone unless they are family. He wrecked my car choked me out and tried to kidnap my son and take our daughter (he has no right he lost all custody after fialing a drug test for cps.) His family is always pointing there fingers at me. Its my fault. And frankly i am just sick of it. I have put in my 30 days notice with him and found a house that wilk be open to move into sometime this month. Its a one bedroom but its only 200 dollars a month and starting out on my own i feel it will half to do for now. I am looking for a job but because ive never had one before i have found it sooo hard to get one. We live in a very small town and i have went door to door everywhere and i have called and called it like no one is interested in even giving me a chance. My kids are my world and even though i know the owner of this house and she is being very leanient on whether im on time with rent or not i do not want fall behind in bills i have always been the type to pay when its due in full no matter what and i cannot let my kids go without because of bills. I will go without eating if it means they have a meal ya know? I guess i just need some positive advice. I know i need to leave but i love him despite everything and the difficulties just keep pulling me to stay. MY RESPONSE: You have to ignore the negative comments solely meant to try to judge you or make you feel worse than you already do. Lets concentrate on this issue at hand. I believe that you love him but he is not capable of showing you the kind of love that you need in return. He has committed violent acts upon you and could have very well have ended your life at the age of 18. The next time you may not be so lucky. Please stay away from him and let God work out the $200/month rent. You cant find anything lower than that and it is a blessing within itself. Keep looking for work and I am not sure where your parents are but please ask them to assist. Also see what kind of government assistance you can qualify for. You should be able to get all kinds of help being so young with two children and no job. Good luck but the first thing you have to do is stop dealing with him before he kills you or one of the children. I hate to be so blunt but it is the truth. Protect yourself and them from his violent behavior. Let me know what happens.
Posted on: Wed, 31 Dec 2014 21:03:54 +0000
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