#1447. Two years ago, I met a guy, X (not his real name), I thought was cute and funny, but found out he had a girlfriend, and lived in LA. I proceeded to date other guys; he broke up with his girlfriend right as I began to develop serious feelings for another guy, Y (not his real name). Because of the fact we were both going through so much, and I wanted to have an honest opinion from a guys perspective, X and I became close friends. About a year ago, I ended things with Y, and X was super supportive. Xmet a girl he really liked in LA and I was happy to return the support, but he had issues and unfortunately that blew up (all I can say is our mutual friend ended up in a relationship with the girl he was dating) right as I was ending another bad fling. I, wanting a rebound, immediately reached out and got back into contact with Y, over the summer. X and I got in a huge fight because he thought Y was bad for me, and I thought he was an asshole for butting into places he didnt belong. We stopped talking, but around when X came to visit in August, I realized that I didnt want Y anymore, and I ended things with him. Because of this, I became friends with X again. Around this time, our friends and his ex kept trying to get us together, and idea we both did NOT want. At the end of that week, X was moving to Hawaii, so we said a long goodbye and hugged for 10 minutes. Over the next few months, he was lonely in his new area, and I didnt have much time with my classes for hanging out with people, so we ended up texting a lot and calling each other. Eventually, we admitted we both were really attracted to each other, but I knew I was looking for something serious in the future, and he doesnt do serious. At the end of Fall quarter, we were skyping all of the time and having a great time being friends with a serious attraction. By Winter break, we started to have trouble with WHAT might happen when he comes to visit in February and how we can deal with it. We both know dating is out of the question, X plans on living in Hawaii for the rest of the year, among other things, and both know we could develop feelings that are more serious if we end up too drunk and hooking up. However, we know its something that could happen really easily. At this point Im asking myself some really tough questions I cant ask our friends. Should I just not hang out with him in February? Should I quit talking to him for a while and date other people so I wont be worried about the built up tension? I want to have fun, but is it worth accidentally ruining our friendship over? Admin: even though the confessor didnt use real names I still had to replace the names with letters cause of our policy.
Posted on: Wed, 14 Jan 2015 09:54:18 +0000
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