20 things about marriage a man should take note of Proposing to your future wife with a gorgeous ring is the easy part. But then it gets complicated. After the bachelor party, and the very nice wedding suit, some men miss the memo on what marriage really is about. So we jotted down a few great pointers on how to avoid turning into a horrible husband. Being in a relationship and marrying your woman are two different things and heres a list of basics that will help sustain your marriage and understand your wife better - taken from the ladies. When your woman raises her voice and speaks unkind aim to be the peacemaker. The trust factor: Trust is a very important factor in your marriage. If you want your wife to trust you, start proving that you can be trusted. Actions always speak louder than words. Cheating on your spouse begins in your heart. Stop it there before you act it out. Leave the games for 30 Seconds sessions with your friends. Love wholeheartedly: Love your wife as Christ loved the church. Give yourself up for her. Love her as you love your own body. Hide and seek: Do not hide or run away when you are faced with huge problems. Do not leave the wife facing the problems all by herself. Face them together to thicken your bond. Have healthy, encouraging male friendships: No more hanging out with guys who badmouth and disrespect their wives. Rather be around friends who love their wives and can encourage you to be a better husband. Single-minded: Acting or behaving like you are single while you are married is not on. Marriages begin to breakdown when spouses think and behave like theyre single. Honour your vows and honour our wife. Treat her right: Keep courting your wife and continue to praise her. Keep pursuing her, thereby making her feel special like you did before you married her. Green does not look good on you: Jealousy is not romantic. Being possessive and jealous of your wife will only break down the love you have created. Jou mama: Your wife should be the queen of your heart, and the queen of your household. Dont make her second fiddle to your mama. Yes your mama makes great food and does wonders, but if you leave your mom out of the picture, you will start noticing how great your wife does things. Publicity stunt: A marriage no no! Never publicly embarrass your wife no matter how upset you are. There is a time and place to discuss matters - like at home, behind closed doors. You dont need to show the world how tough you are. No one cares. Back to the future: Leave the past to be in the past. Don’t befriend your exes, old flames, past flings, former crushes or anyone you’ve been intimate with. Move on to the future with your wife and only your wife as your lover. Respect: as much as women need to know this, so should men. In marriage this is an important tool. Do not go running to your parents to bad mouth your wife. If you do not respect her no one will. Never lift a hand to hurt her either. Using a harsh tone: the harsher your language the tougher your relationship will be. Getting angry about a fixed trait: Some things are hardwired in a person and will never change. Instead of trying to change the person, remember why you fell in love with her in the first place. Mirror Mirror on the wall: Dont compare your wife to other women. Theres a reason you married your wife. So love her for who she is and what she has to offer. Other women may seem like the perfect package, but remember they are also someone elses ex. Keeping score: Simply love. Do not keep a list of wrongs suffered. Learn to forgive when your wife has hurt you. Macho man: Being the man of the house does not mean you must control your wife and change her ways of doing things. It does not mean than because she is the wife, that she must be subjected to cooking and cleaning all day long. She is also not your butler. Dont sit on the couch and place orders. Remember she is also going to work - just like you. If you help her with the cooking and cleaning, it will really help your relationship - and no, it doesnt make you any less of a man. Role play: Know your role as a man. Spoil your woman. She may earn an income but it does not mean you must stop doing the things that make her smile. Be the man, and treat her with flowers or something special. Every women loves to be spoilt. Whos your daddy? Be more of a husband than a father to your first lady. Stop bossing her around and telling her what do do, how to dress, how to walk, how to talk. Leave that to her father, he does it well enough. Let her be who she wants to be and love her for it. Support structure: Consider her emotions, be that support structure in time of need and any other day. Listen to her problems, listen to her talking about her daily routine. Listen to her complaints about work, the people she dealt with etc. Instead of telling her to keep quiet and stop whining, join the conversation. You might let off some steam in the process also. Always remember this bible verse from Proverbs: “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.”
Posted on: Sun, 01 Dec 2013 12:34:24 +0000
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