25th November(Tuesday) Chapter 12: NVC BOOK STUDY INTENSIVE PROGRAM + Your Weekly Reflection Dear friends, This is just to re-confirm that the next NVC BOOK STUDY INTENSIVE PROGRAM Session based on Marshall Rosenbergs 13-chapter book, Nonviolent Communication, A Language of Life. will take place on : Date: November 25th, 2014 (Tuesday) Time: 7 pm - 9 pm Venue: PADMA - Centre for Soul Realisation, X-29 Hauz Khas (basement),On NIFT Road,New Delhi - 11 00 16 Lesson Plan: (Chapter 12: Liberating Ourselves and Counseling others) - Nonviolent Communication, A Language of Life by Marshall Rosenberg Group Discussion Contribution : Rs 150/- per session. (This may be paid at the front desk of the Centre before the start of the session) Newcomers will be observers for this Session . Please do read the chapter before the practice session. Kindly inform in advance in case you are bringing any newcomers along. Kindly confirm via return email ,phone or sms whether or not if you are able to make it , and please feel free to pass on this message to anyone who might be interested In case of any queries,do call the on the numbers given below Looking forward to connecting & practicing with you. Have a beautiful day, With love, Meenu YOUR WEEKLY REFLECTION: It’s kind of fun to do the impossible. —Walt Disney Engage Your Curiosity Do the people in your life ever respond in ways that simply baffle you? In such situations, we may think: “What was he thinking? He completely reversed himself. He must have been confused, hurt, or out of his mind.” We have a tendency to tell a story about what we think was behind the other person’s reaction. We spend a tremendous amount of energy wondering what the other person was thinking, blaming him, and feeling, sad, hurt, angry, and resentful. I have seen people in pain for years because they never took a moment to ask for clarity. I suggest a new process. Engage your curiosity by asking the other person what is going on. For example: “You know, when you expressed your anger just now, I felt baffled because I thought we had agreed last week to buy a Honda, so I’d like clarity. Do you have different information that has caused you to change your mind about buying one?” Notice that this statement doesn’t place blame on either party. It simply expresses your confusion and your desire for more information. Usually, the minute we ask for more information, we get it. It’s simple, really. We can either wonder about what’s going on with the other person, create our own stories about it, or inform ourselves by asking Engage your curiosity today and ask at least one person what is going on with him, rather than wondering. This reflection is an excerpt from Peaceful Living: Daily Meditations for Living with Love, Healing, and Compassion by Mary Mackenzie. For further details and information on NVC - please visit the following websites: cnvc.org OR READ HERE : AN INTRODUCTION TO NVC NVC is a specific approach to communication—speaking and listening—that leads us to give from the heart, connecting with ourselves and others in a way that allows our natural compassion to flow. NVC is founded on language and communication skills that strengthen our ability to remain human, even under very trying circumstances. It is a process of communication, a language of compassion. NVC guides us in reframing how we express ourselves and hear others. Our words become conscious responses. We are led to express ourselves with honesty and clarity, while simultaneously paying others respectful and empathic attention. NVCtrains us to observe carefully and be able to specify behaviors and conditions that are affecting us. When we focus on clarifying what is being observed, felt and needed rather than on diagnosing and judging, we discover the depth of our own compassion. Cultural conditioning leads me to focus attention on places where I am unlikely to get what I want. NVC helps train my attention—to shine the light of my consciousness—on places that have the potential to yield what I am seeking. What I want in my life is compassion, a flow between myself and others based on a mutual giving from the heart. When we give from the heart, it benefits both giver and receiver. If we stay with the principles of NVC, motivated solely to give and receive compassionately, and do everything we can to let others know this is our only motive, they will join us in the process, and eventually we will be able to respond compassionately with one another. THE NVC PROCESS To give from the heart, we focus the light of consciousness on four areas—the four components of NVC. 1. We observe what is actually happening in a situation: what are others doing that are either enriching or not enriching in our life? Articulate the observation without any judgement or evaluation. Simply state what people are doing that we like or do not like. 2. Next, state how we feel when we observe this action: hurt, amused, angry, happy, joyful, etc. 3. What needs of ours are connected to the feelings we have identified? 4. A very specific request is made immediately after, which addresses what we are wanting from the other/myself that would enrich our lives. Part of NVC is to express these four pieces of information clearly. The other aspect of NVC is to receive the same four pieces of information from others. We connect with them by sensing what they are observing, feeling and needing and then discover what would enrich their lives by receiving the fourth piece, the request. As we keep our attention focused on these, we establish a flow of communication, back and forth, until compassion manifests naturally: what I am observing, feeling, needing and my request to enrich my life: what you are observing, feeling, needing and what you are requesting to enrich your life… NVC doesnt consist of a set formula but adapts to various situations as well as personal and cultural styles. The essence of NVC is to be found in our consciousness of these four components, not in the actual words that are exchanged. When we use NVC in our interactions, we become grounded in our natural state of compassion. NVC fosters deep listening, respect and empathy, and engenders a mutual desire to give from the heart adapted from Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D. Published by PuddleDancer Press Inline image 1 PADMA - Centre for Soul Realisation is a multidisciplinary centre offering PRANIC HEALING * MEDITATION * ARHATIC YOGA * NVC * MEENUS PRAANA KITCHEN X-29, Hauz Khas, LGF On NIFT Road, New Delhi - 11 00 16 India. Phone :+919650650333 or +91(11),42657781/83 e-mail :padma3om@gmail Website : padmapranichealing
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