4 Keys for handling offense stemming from rejection and abandonment. 1. Never make people your source of happiness or strength. (Sure we all need people in our lives but they should never be the total source only God should have that place of necessity in your life. This includes spouses, children, pastors and parents.) Remember its not what others say, think or feel about you but what you say, think and feel about yourself that matters and ultimately produces success.If you allow others to have this place you will always be on a roller-coaster worried about how THEY feel or what they think. 2. Never expect someone to operate beyond their capacity. (Some people never had the capacity to love you the way you loved them its just not in their nature) 3. Never do anything expecting a direct return on your investment. Always do whatever you from a sincere heart no strings attached. (For instance my friends and dont lend money. Friendships can be destroyed because of money. Likewise when we do something for someone and we expect someone to do something or we expect a certain result we could be setting ourselves up for disappointment.) 4. If there is an offense between yourself and someone discuss it with them without attacking. The best way to express it is, This is how it made ME feel. If they apologize awesome and if not forgive them and move on with life. Here is what you should never do however. a. Gossip about it before giving them a chance to explain. b. Avoid them and their phone calls, texts or attempts to connect for extended periods of time i.e. weeks, months and years (this demonstrates extreme spiritual immaturity. Be honest with them and make peace to the best of your ability). c. Allow it to fester and become a draining source and point of entry for the enemy to use to destroy families, churches and relationships. Finally, be Godly, loving, friendly and forgiving but never become a doormat for anyone. Ask Holy Spirit for discernment on who to allow into your heart so that you stop allowing yourself to be hurt. When He (Holy Spirit) reveals to you who someone is and what their capacity is believe Him and govern yourself accordingly.
Posted on: Sat, 09 Aug 2014 15:38:18 +0000
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