5 TRICKS To Improve Your Self Confidence & Achieve Your Dreams How high or low is your level of confidence?c There are those who ooze with it and you will definitely see it in small things such as how they talk or walk to how they are able to negotiate a better salary than the next person. And then there is the rest who have to work harder at it. Even asking for change from the “makanga” becomes an issue let alone asking for a salary raise from their boss. Does it mean if you belong in the latter group you are doomed? Here are tips you can use to better yourself. 1. Know Your Strengths Ever had a negative comment which flats out your self confidence? If you start to obsess about it, your mind, fettered by fatigue, is just going to continue doubting and lead you to further uncertainty. So simply tell yourself that the doubt is a lie. Rely on the truth, not on emotions. When you’re plagued by doubts and thinking, ‘Nothing ever works out for me’, ‘I’m no good at anything’, ‘I can’t do it’, etc, remember that it all depends on your will alone. You yourself determine what works out or doesn’t work out for you. If you want something and show plenty diligence, there’s no reason for it not to happen. And if it doesn’t, just try again. 2. Don’t listen to people who tell you things aren’t going to work out Sometimes when you’re having doubts, you share your plans with friends and acquaintances. You do this in expectation of their support for you new venture, but what you often get instead is a stop sign. Some people just aren’t able to dispel your doubts for the simple reason that they’re more concerned for their own psychological comfort than your happiness. In reality, the unfortunate truth is that most people actually shy away from doing anything brave or independent, and they would rather believe that if something didn’t work out for them, then it won’t work out for you either. So instead talk about your endeavours with people who have already been successful in the same field. It makes much more sense to follow their example than that of people for whom things didn’t work out. 3. Stop trying to be a perfectionist You’re not perfect; no one is. Accept this. It’s not necessary to react in an oversensitive way to mistakes and failures which erode your self- confidence. You make mistakes, and that’s fine. Treat your mistakes calmly. If you feel that you’ve done something wrong or said something incorrect, then simply draw conclusions from the situation – take it as a lesson. Try not to make the same mistake in future instead of worrying about how stupid you were. Making mistakes is part of being human; it’s nothing to worry about. 4. Stand by your opinion It’s good to have strong positions and firm views on certain things. Don’t rush to agree with everyone. However, a strong position doesn’t mean unwavering determination about your opinion. Nor does it mean that you should always aggressively defend your stance or engage in long and pointless arguments (although of course in some situations it is advisable to defend your opinion). What it means is having a solid, reasonable, considered position, a set of personal principles which can’t be changed by every random opinion. 5. Work on self-development Of course, it’s very hard to be confident in your qualities if these qualities are poorly developed. Never stop trying to find out new things about the world; learn new skills. When you master new skills, your confidence in them increases – it’s difficult to doubt something you’ve dedicated so much time to and can therefore do better than others. Think about what you’re good at. If you’re always studying something, putting your skills into practice, seeing a return from your actions, then there becomes much less room for uncertainty.
Posted on: Wed, 08 Oct 2014 06:28:32 +0000
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