5 worst habits that ruin Blissful and great relationships............Try as much as you can to avoid them . Holding on to anger may cause your lover to let go of you.Great relationships are made and broken in how you treat each other every day. Its the simple things—your attitude, how you deal with conflict, and what your focus is on that will ultimately keep you together or push you apart. Building a life with your partner means learning how to share your life with your partner and how to create a deep and meaningful relationship that allows both of you to grow and evolve as people. Avoiding actions that create drama and negativity in your relationship is crucial to creating lasting love. Bad Habit #1: Worrying About What Other People Think. Everyone wants and needs different things in their relationships. Dont get caught up in what other people want or what your friends are doing. Concentrate on creating a relationship with your partner that works for the both of you. Bad Habit #2: Letting Your Ego Get in the Way. One of the biggest relationship mistakes is getting caught up in trying to be right in an argument. When youre focusing on proving your partner wrong and getting them to acknowledge that youre right, you lose sight of what youre really trying to do—resolve a problem. Drop your ego, and instead focus on creating a space where each of you can share your concerns over the issue. Work as a team to find a solution that makes sense for the both of you. Bad Habit #3: Letting The Past Define You OR Your Partner. Past relationships and partners shouldnt be used as a gauge for your current relationship. Negative past experiences arent proof every relationship youll ever have will fail. You can learn from your mistakes, and make different choices. Your partner can too. Dont use your partner past against them. Concentrate on your present and future together. Bad Habit #4: Holding Grudges Holding onto your upset over a wrong (or perceived wrong) can poison your relationship over time. Grudges build invisible walls between you and your partner. When youre walking around seething about an old slight, you cant emotionally connect with your partner or enjoy true intimacy. The negative emotions youre feeling get into the way. Creating a strong relationship involves learning how to forgive, forget, and let go of grudges. Bad Habit #5 : Trying to Change Them Love your partner for whom they are, instead of trying to change, or fix your partner. When you try to change your partner subconsciously youre rejecting him/her and telling him/her that he/shes not good enough for you. Strive to create a relationship full of love, acceptance, and support that inspires the both of you to grow and evolve. What can you do instead? You dont have to let your bad habits ruin your relationship. Learn to recognize when youre doing them and commit to breaking your patterns. Practice P.B.S. (Pause, take a deep Breath, and Smile) whenever youre tempted to bring up the past or hang onto a grudge. By taking a moment before reacting, you can choose a different action, one that is more empowering. For example, instead of trying to change the things that bother your partner, you can choose to be grateful for the things you love about your partner. Is your partners great parent? A thoughtful gift giver? An imaginative artist? When you think about the things you appreciate about your partner, and feel grateful for those things, the annoying things seem more insignificant. Keep your relationship strong and healthy by avoiding bad habits, and focusing on creating good ones.
Posted on: Sat, 05 Jul 2014 01:06:15 +0000
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