6 REASONS WHY BLAMING IS BAD FOR YOU In recent days I have seen - TopicsExpress

6 REASONS WHY BLAMING IS BAD FOR YOU In recent days I have seen some people whom I have known for years putting up some pretty depressing posts on FB and their blogs. In the end, blaming others and circumstances says more about you than the person you are blaming. 1. You expose your own weakness. When blaming, the biggest thing that comes up is your own limitations. You dont rise to the challenge, you dont find a new solution. You merely show others how unresourceful you are. 2. You fail to recognize a learning moment. Every situation gone bad is a lesson to be learnt. It may not be something that is new, it may have been recurring. But by taking responsibility, you can control your behaviors that will reduce the problems you encounter for life. After all, if there was a problem, and you were in its proximity, you might be a contributor! 3. You burn bridges. Just because someone has created some difficulty for you doesnt mean they cant change or will always be this way. The problem exacerbates itself when you blame because you will never be able to repair a relationship through blame. Imagine, then, that this person you blame turns out to be your biggest client or employer. #oops. 4. You have unfinished business and build tension. Psychologically, the more blame you impose on others, the more likely you are poisoning your nervous system. Because of this emotional anger, you might lose sleep and have nightmares. Even if you dont, the psychological drain is real, and prevents you from performing at your best. Let it go! 5. You get stuck. Blaming is a sign of a lack of progression. As I note people around me who are blameful, others spend time to advance themselves instead of getting stuck in a rut. What is worse is when the person you spend lots of time blaming may end up progressing because they dont have the same issues as you! 6. You want to be right instead of being better. A lot of the time, there isnt such a thing as being right. But even if you are, just because you are right doesnt win you friends and build a positive network of people around you. Your mindset becomes occluded and you create a mire of negativity that keeps you from growing and learning. They say the only way people stop learning is when they die. Well, blaming is like digging the grave of learning and throwing yourself in. Focus on the reality you want to build. #nevertalktoblamers