6. Self-righteous In order to conceal his corrupt character and ruthless ambitions, a workplace bully claims the moral and ethical high ground. alternatively, a delusional bully may actually be convinced he possesses superior virtue, and that his noble objectives fully justify deceiving and mistreating others. Either way, his self-righteous manner is a constant force, often leading to bullying behaviors. He is good, others are bad A self-righteous bully implies he is a good person, but others are ill-intentioned and devious. He tells stories that demonstrate his own goodness and highlight the questionable motives of others. Superior character A self-righteous bully describes himself as exhibiting the best moral, ethical and intellectual qualities, implying that others don’t share his high standards. He uses distorted examples or makes off-hand remarks in order to suggest that others have shaky ethics or morals. Superior motives He characterizes his intentions as highly unselfish, while suggesting that others are seeking their own selfish ends. He suggests that unlike others in the company, he has the employees’ best interests in mind. When speaking at a meeting, he appeals to nobler motives, which of course coincide with his own objectives. In order to show he is more devoted to the company than anyone else, he quotes the company’s vision and values. He uses highly aggressive phrases to intimidate you with his superior motives, such as: “Stop being so selfish.” “Why are you being so selfish?” “Why are you being so mean-spirited?” “Why are you being so stubborn?” “You’re only thinking about yourself.” “You need to put the company first instead of always thinking about yourself.” If he says “You know I would do the same for you,” it is probably an attempt to manipulate you through guilt rather than to offer a fair exchange of cooperation. Superior commitment A self-righteous bully tells stories that demonstrate his extreme commitment to the company. He describes his long hours and personal sacrifices, then suggests others lack commitment. He readily embraces the role of martyr for the company, never acknowledging that his bullying tactics created inefficiencies that necessitated his excessive hours. Superior performance He brags about his consistently superior performance. When he is forced to admit a mistake, he makes a big deal about it, both to highlight the fact that his mistakes are very rare and to demonstrate his supposed humility. If a self-righteous bully is sufficiently delusional, he may even take pride in his humble nature.
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