7 HABITS OF REMARKABLY LIKABLE PEOPLE Why is Governor Fasola well - TopicsExpress

7 HABITS OF REMARKABLY LIKABLE PEOPLE Why is Governor Fasola well liked why do people troop to the Redemption camp to listen to Pastor Adeboye. Why id Funke Akindele very popular with movie lovers. Asides from their talents and leadership qualities, the answers are not far from the same qualities that made the likes of MKO Abiola, Mother Theresa, Princess Diana and Pope John Paul cult heroes. Today, I dwell on six habits of such people. From the Nigeria’s corporate arena to Nollywood I chronicle the common denominators behind the most likeable people. They are not overly conscious of their reputation. This is one trait of remarkably likeable people. They can condescend to the level of even the most common man. They do not possess a high look that says ‘I am the star and you are the fan’, they are not snobbish, and they mingle easily with people. It’s this likeable trait that makes Warren Buffet mix easily shaking hands freely with people in public gatherings and also made Obama bow to other Heads of State. They are Simple. People get tired of people who overdo it. Simplicity is a turn on. This is where people like Pastor Adeboye draw their popularity from based on his simplicity in preaching. This is what makes governor Fashola a likeable person; his reluctance to cause a nuisance with the use of a siren for instance is a testimony to his simplicity. The Aliko Dangote is also well liked on the basis of his simplicity. His ability to walk into a store like an ordinary customer is a winner any day. I remember Dangote saying after he became Africa’s richest man that it pays to be simple when you are on top so if anything happens you don’t lose your sense of esteem. They are real. People detect a fake easily and Think of those people who travel abroad for a short while and come back speaking with an accent and how they irritate everyone of us. I think this is one of the hallmark of remarkably likeable nollywood stars like Funke Akindele who has stayed real to herself in an industry laden with too much artificiality. Dont try to win the relating competition. Try to lose. Be complimentary. Be impressed. Admit a failing or a weakness. You dont have to disclose your darkest secrets. If the other person says, We just purchased a larger facility, say, Thats awesome. I have to admit Im jealous. Weve wanted to move for a couple years but havent been able to put together the financing. How did you pull it off? Dont be afraid to show a little vulnerability. People may be (momentarily) impressed by the artificial, but people sincerely like the genuine. Be the real you (that is good) and people will like you. They ask the most important questions. In communication, the tree most important questions are ask why, how and who. These people do not only ask such questions, they stay open-ended and allow room for description and introspection. As soon as you learn a little about someone, ask how they did it. Or why they did it. Or what they liked about it, or what they learned from it, or what you should do if youre in a similar situation. No one gets too much recognition. Asking the right questions implicitly shows you respect another persons opinion--and, by extension, the person. We all like people who respect us, if only because it shows they display great judgment. They exploit their interest, their politeness, and their social graces to attract people. This is TV hosts such as Larry King and Opera Winfrey draw their popularity from as great conversationalists. They are hardly ill tempered People are attracted to those who are equable and project a calm demeanor. Supermodel Naomi Campbell for example is notorious for having a very hot temper and did not have the people popularity of Trya Banks when they both reigned on the runway. They ask for nothing,They give everything It was John D Rockefeller who made this quote his life . Get all the money you can, fairly and honestly; keep all you can and give away all you can” People get uncomfortable being around people who ask for things or make it a habit. No one wants to feel drained and no one likes a parasite either. Even when you wish to network with people always give before you try to get. Put away the hard-charging, goal-oriented, always-on kind of persona. If you have to ask for something, find a way to help the other person, and then ask if you can. Remarkably likeable people focus on what they can do for you--not for themselves. They use winning remarks. They don’t just say get me that file use the word ‘Please’. They are not afraid to say ‘Sorry’ and that are quick to say ‘Thank you’ when necessary. They know how comfort the bereaved and they know how to celebrate with the happy. They know it pays to smile, and they utilize its power. Hey don’t give stale and regimented greetings that are instantly forgettable. Instead of the regular Nice to meet you, you say, nodding once as you part. What about trying this? Go back to the beginning. Shake hands again. Use your free hand to gently touch the other persons forearm or shoulder. Say, I am really glad I met you. Or say, You know, I really enjoyed talking with you. Smile: Not that insincere salesperson smile that goes with, Have a nice day! but a genuine, appreciative smile. That more like a greeting from a remarkably likeable person right!. Please send your Comment and feedback. Get.......d.....insight