8 Signs You’re A Total Pushover Wednesday, November 13, 2013 by Jessica Booth I have always been a shy girl (as I’ve said before). Throughout middle school and high school, I literally was afraid of saying the word “no.” I never spoke my mind no matter what and so I let a lot of people get away with things they should never have gotten away with. In other words, I was a total pushover for the majority of my life. Although I’m still shy now, I have fortunately learned how to stop allowing people to walk all over me. I’ve learned how to tell people when they’re making me angry or upset, I’ve learned how to tell dudes how to treat me and how not to treat me and I’ve figured out that confrontation doesn’t always equal huge, dramatic fights. In fact, most of the time, it can be useful. I know that a lot of you girls are just as shy as I once was (and still sometimes am) and so I’m assuming that some of you out there are acting like pushovers when you shouldn’t be – you have a voice and it deserves to be heard! Here are 8 signs you’re a pushover. 1 OF 8 VIEW ALL Your Friends Always Ask For Favors Because They Know You Wont Say No You Always Seem To End Up In Non-Relationship Relationships You Never Defend Yourself You Say Sorry Way Too Often Youre More Worried About Other People Being Happy Than Yourself Youll Do Anything To Avoid Confrontation People Take Credit For Your Ideas You Always Go With The Flow Your Friends Always Ask For Favors Because They Know You Wont Say No If you find that youre constantly doing favors for other people, but rarely getting favors back in return, thats a huge sign that youre acting like too much of a pushover. Throughout high school, I had several friends who relied on me and my parents for rides everywhere because they knew I could convince my parents to do it - they never asked their parents if they could drive us. People might not even be doing it purposely, its just that once you start saying yes a lot, people sort of assume youll always say it. And while you should obviously do favors for people, you dont have an obligation to fulfill every favor asked of you. Dont say yes if its going to put you out of your way or make things more difficult for you. Source: ShutterStock Do you think you’re a pushover? Have you ever been a pushover? Which of these signs can you relate to? Tell me in the comments. 10 awesome things you’re probably not doing Follow Gurl, pretty please! Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr and Instagram 7 0 StumbleNew Posted in: Beliefs Tags: advice, pushover, relationships More on Gurl… Source: ShutterStock How To Get Over Social Anxiety And Make New Friends 10 Things You Definitely Should Not Do This Summer 10 Tips On How To Deal With Insecurity and Be More Confident 8 Of The Worst Things About Ads Directed Toward Women 10 Cold, Hard Truths About Life We All Need To Hear 7 Comments avatarwhatsmyusername says: 04/07/2014 at 10:28 am I immediately stopped reading when you misspelled ‘you’re’. Can’t take you seriously anymore. REPLY avatarEsosa says: 01/09/2014 at 5:28 pm people talk about me , used me , called me ugly ,cussed me out , REPLY avatarDiana says: 12/26/2013 at 1:21 pm I used to be a huge pushover; I wanted to be liked by people because all I ever knew for a long time was being bullied. Eventually when I went to prom I made a 180 degree turn, people dropped jaws when they saw me. (I went to an all girl catholic high school with uniforms; I felt no need in wearing makeup so I looked like crap and probably a nerd most of the time.) But after high school I accepted myself, became confident, my self-esteem rose due to compliments. My style is literally a huge part of me, I dress comfortable, but to people it’s unique and different, something some people admire, and some others don’t, but I don’t mind–to each their own. But I’ve lost a lot of friends, or rather saw who was “fake” because they didn’t like me sticking up for myself, saying no, fighting back, and basically thought the world revolved around them. I got called some mean words, and I was like “You’ll care more than I will, because I really don’t give a rats a** about you and the way your acting. Have fun caring, I’ll pray for you.” Some people accepted it and are still my friends, and changed with times. They might have not been too happy, but I’m really comfy in my own skin now. & I go after what I want, no one can tell me otherwise. I follow my instincts. Read more: gurl/2013/11/13/signs-youre-a-pushover-let-people-take-advantage-of-you/#ixzz37YK7NYAX
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