A True Friend vs A Fake Friend [Friendship In Islam] Signs of a True Muslim Friend: 1) When his/her friend is happy they are also happy. They never get jealous of their friend’s achievements. They always want their friends to be happy. 2) They share their joys with their friends. They love to share their belongings and are generous. 3) They are protective of their friends. They always defend their friends when their friends need backing up. 4) They never laugh at their friends’ mishaps. They never make hurtful comments or jokes about their friends. 5) They are always there for their friends. If their friends need someone to talk to or if they need help in any way they are always available for them. 6) They are humble and love taking care of their friends. 7) They are always truthful with their friends. They never lie to them. 8) They accept their friends as they are and if they want their friends to change it would only be for their betterment e.g. for the friend to improve spiritually/religiously. 9) If they see their friends committing a mistake, they are quick to point it out and advise them in the nicest way. 10) They love returning the favors of their friends. They sincerely appreciate whatever good their friends do to them. 11) They seldom lose interest in their friends and enjoy spending time with them, especially in exchanging Islamic knowledge and wisdom. 12) They are trustworthy and always keep their promises. 13) If they wrong you in any way, they are quick to apologize and would do anything to compensate. Signs of a Fake Friend: 1) They hate seeing you happy. They get jealous of your achievements. 2) They don’t always share their joys with you. At times they can be very selfish. 3) When you’re in trouble, they either ridicule you or run away. 4) When given the chance they love to laugh at you and make fun of you. 5) When someone says some nasty things about you, the fake friend either laughs at what is being told to them, agrees with what is being said or shares the gossip with others. 6) That fake friend is often very arrogant in your company, doesn’t welcome your advice and would never take orders from you. 7) They may lie to you from time to time. They love being sarcastic, so much so that sometimes you’d need to guess if they’re telling the truth or if they’re lying. 8) When befriending you, they usually have hidden or ulterior motives, as though they are nosy spies hunting for ‘information’. 9) They hardly ever advise you when you need advice. They never bother correcting you when you are wrong. 10) They don’t always appreciate the good things you do to them. In your dealings with them you’re oftentimes the giver while they’re the taker and ingrate. 11) They hate being seen with you. They easily get bored by you. They try to avoid you whenever possible. 12) They have a tendency to break their promises and have many times proved to be untrustworthy. 13) Saying a simple ‘I’m sorry’ to you is very strenuous and difficult for them. They hate apologizing. The Prophet Muhammad [peace and blessings be upon him] said: The parable of a good friend and a bad friend is that of a carrier of musk and a blacksmith, The carrier of musk will give you some, or you will buy some, or you will notice a good smell, but as for the blacksmith, he will burn your clothes or you will notice a bad smell.[Sahih Muslim, book of Righteousness, Hadith 6692] And the believers, men and women, are protecting friends of one another, they enjoin the right and forbid the wrong.-Surat At-Tawbah Verse9:71
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