After watching the video of the evil Ugandan nanny who tortured the innocent and beautiful baby, I still cannot help myself feeling for this baby. But Im happy that the video has gone viral, though unfortunate, but a good opportunity for young and prospective couples to take lessons from. My grandma had 12 children. She lived in a cottage with only my grandpa. She walked over 10 kilometers to farm everyday. Spent her whole day weeding, burning bushes, planting and cutting firewood; all with her baby clasped at her back with a piece of cloth. At intervals, she will break from her work, find a suitable place under a shady tree to feed and caress the baby till it falls asleep. She will leave the baby covered under a cool dry place and return to her farm work because it was believed that babies are so special that even wild animals like snakes, lions etc will play around babies without harming them. And it is so true. Mummies then, could realise how hungrier their babies were by feeling a tingle in their breasts. When her child is grown and ready for school, she will wake up at 4am, prepare breakfast for her child and husband, finish her chores and clean the child for school before she leaves for the farm. And this, she did until the child was older enough to bath, play around and feed himself. Then she catches another ball. Before that ball comes out, the first child could be helpful in its upbringing and this she did for all the 12. Whiles the granny is cooking or doing other chores, the child will be playing with the dad, and he will pick him up if hes hurt or starts crying. And on his chest, the child feels the dads heart beat, as it plays with the hairs on his chest. And when the baby refuses to stop crying, the mother comes to its recue. Because then it becomes apparent that the child is tired of heart beats and plays. It needs comfort on a womans chest. It needs breast milk. Not that there were no househelps back then, not that they were too poor to employ one, and not that they were not busy. The principal aim was for the parent to spend the whole (or majority) of their time seeing her baby. Teaching it the family norm and practices from day one. Letting the baby feel part of the family and identifying with the family the true trace of blood and genes it inherited. There were no DNA tests, there were no better school or hospitals but when a child is born, you need not to be told of its parents. And when the child grows, he walks, talks and behaves exactly like both or at least one of the parents. It is also believed in traditional African culture that children primarily picks after the people they spend majority of their developmental stages with. Children in this modern times are secondary matters. Becuase couples in this era are inessentially busy. Mother is a banker, father is a journalist. Wedding planning is left in the hands of th best event planners in the country, and it is mostly extremely expensive. But the end product and ULTIMATE goal of the marriage (baby) is left in the care of an illiterate and semi-crazy househelps becuase they come cheap. Why would you leave your wedding in the care of the most expensive bidder but leave your childs care in the hands of people you have absolute no background information. Is that reasonable? Especially when you know what actually the motive of marriage is. Young fathers privilege enough to have a car will choose going to meet friends to talk about football than picking their children at school. They eventually leave their kids to the mercy of ignorant taxi drivers. Young mothers are interested in painting their eye lashes and going window shopping than preparing lunch for their kids. Is it not in Ghana that a taxi driver used an innocent kid for rituals with the parents coming to realise after 3 days that their kid failed to return from school? What happened to the tradional African sensenof parents seeing tomitvthatvtheir kids are asleep before a parent can retire to bed? It was a practice in our homes for mother in laws to move and stay with a nursing mother for over 12 months, bathing and baby-sit the baby till its fit enough to crawl? But now young girls dont even wanna see the faces of their mother in laws after marriage. And all we do after work is showering babies with toys, sweeties, expensive clothes but little care and attention. We chase wealth, spend most times giving attention to unecessary projects, at the neglect of the guys who will take over and continue those projects. And even with education, it is not about the best schools your children attend, but the best of wisdom and common sense you imbibe in them. If you produce bad children, you eventually leave leave a bad legacy nonetheless the amount of wealth you amount amassed. What happened in Uganda is happening everyday in Ghana in homes and across Africa. We just dont learn. And we refuse to go by our tradition. The concept of nannies and househelps are alien to our culture but we simply over copy as always. And In the end, we only breed callous and unrepentant children. We produce children who completely deviate from our lifestyles because we fail to give them the care we received from our tradiotionally-oriented parents and grandparents. If you think you need more time for work and money than your baby, then you simply are not ready for marriage. And if you choose to leave your babys upbringing in the hands of an ignorant househelp, then you needed a house help in your life, not a baby. Gentlemen, lets watch it, and most importantly, my dear ladies, choose your baby over everything. Lets watch it.
Posted on: Sat, 22 Nov 2014 17:44:59 +0000
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