Am I on the right track if I realize I hate everybody? Q #910: I seem to be at a place where I now recognize that I hate everyone -- that my special love relationships are really special hate. So, now I see everyone the same. Am I on the right track? A: A Course in Miracles tells us that relationships are really bargains we make with others to get them to fill a lack we perceive in ourselves. When we think another is meeting our needs, we experience special love. When we feel someone has failed to meet our needs, we experience special hate. But underneath, as long as we perceive others as separate from us, different from us, and in possession of something we want but dont have, we must secretly hate them. Further, because our sense of lack really comes from our believed separation from God (and the guilt that it engenders), no one can actually meet our needs. Thus, eventually everyone must fail to live up to our expectations and, at times even on a conscious level, become the object of our hate (which can look like anger, disappointment, and a number of other emotions). If your work with the Course has helped you realize that you are playing the same game in every relationship, then in a sense, you are on the right track. However, it is important to make a distinction between recognizing that you are doing the same thing with everyone, versus actually seeing everyone as the same. You may be feeling the same hate for all of them. But again, that hate comes from the belief that they are separate and therefore different from you. When Jesus speaks in the Course of seeing them all the same, he really means recognizing that you and all your brothers share the same single need -- the need to awaken and remember that we arent separate and havent killed, or left Gods Love. He is trying to remind us that we are all the same in the insanity of the ego and in the sanity of the Holy Spirit. We are all guilty within the dream, but innocent in the reality of Heaven. And finally, we are all equally capable of calling upon the Teacher within us who will help us awaken to that reality. So when we truly see everyone as the same, there will be no hate. The only way to get there is to observe without judgment (by calling upon the Holy Spirits help) as our ego plays the same awful games again and again. At some point well realize that the hate we feel for others isnt about them at all. Its merely a defense our ego invented to keep itself going. When we understand that projecting our hate only keeps us miserable, well be several steps closer to reuniting with the Love of God in our mind -- the one and only thing that can truly fill our imagined lack. Filled with that Love, with no sense of lack, well know that the differences our bodies perceive mean nothing. facimoutreach.org/qa/questions/questions181.htm#Q910
Posted on: Sat, 02 Aug 2014 12:15:52 +0000
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