As another day retires the way we did not expect; we look skywards with unappeasable stance, bemoaning the questions which are still unanswered by the universe. How frequent do we sigh with disappointment and talk to ourselves that we are the most unfortunate people. Are our pleas and self talks being addressed by anybody? Is there a congregation to hear our prayers and listen to our dispirited urges? How many of us face such times when days seem darker than the nights? Almost each one of us, at some point of time, has lived through such chapters in life. Situations often crop up which do not respond or turn out the way we expect them to. How surprising it turns out to be when we find how less we know about the reasons behind taking up a specific task or having made a certain decision. In this context, it inspires me to mention the famous quote by Paulo Coelho “When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.” It does happen. It does. But the catch is at what point of time in life you achieve it. Does needing something right this moment and bagging the same 2 years later has the same value? Time is the essence. But does this essence hold equal weightage at different intervals of time. Is there a way to accentuate the process? The only way suggested by spiritualists is to apply a transformation to our existing thought process. Let us, for a moment, converge to a common belief that not having expectation of any kind will lead us to a path of complete self attainment and it would be promising for our inner peace and tranquility. Let us see and examine certain situations. It is believed that if we have some preconceived notions about how things would shape up it would definitely land us into disappointment because ninety-eight percent of the time it is not the way we surmise those things. We are advised to keep our heart and mind separated. Expectations cause excruciating pain. Nonetheless, we still expect. A high number of underrated events mark the disillusionment about expecting things to happen our way. Nevertheless how much we try, we cannot evade the despondency knitted to repeated dismays. Let us take few instances. When we are in a relationship, could we just be totally oblivious of the actions of our partner without expecting at all? Or could we be completely disregardful of how we would be acknowledged for our yearly performance in office without expecting a decent raise in our paychecks? Of course not! For me, nonetheless how much I persist, I would never be able to wholly dismiss the trace of my expectation. Now, let us be a little true to ourselves. Will we just abruptly stop expectations associated with things or people which are vital for our survival? Will we just put a period to our feelings which we store as essentials in our survival basket? I would be honest to accept that there is some fraction of expectation within each one of us, whether we embrace the fact or not. We find ourselves hinging on the last bit of hope that things would mould out the way we expect them to. Not quite sure if the heretical talks would lead into great trouble or would open the portal to a new definition of self realization. To encapsulate in one sentence, it is a paradoxical statement to say – “Live without Expectations” as it is like saying “breathe without air”. We can, in the least, give it a try.
Posted on: Tue, 06 Jan 2015 16:41:55 +0000