As you know we do not post on public holidays. What I have done however is that seeing that today is Womans Day and our running theme has been woman abuse I have written a piece dedicated to my brothers for my sisters. I will post it here and also on the blog as todays piece.... ********************************************************************************* TO MY BROTHERS FOR MY SISTERS What is the most painful story you have ever heard? I am talking about something that touched your heart and left you out of breath by the sheer tragedy of it. Something that when you think about many years on it still haunts you and pains you even though it might not have happened to you. I have heard that death is really painful and hard to get over but is death not also part of the cycle of life hence it’s inevitable and cannot be prevented. If that is the case then that means that means that its to be expected. I would like you to close your eyes and picture a young girl walking down the street or at at a party with her friends. Two boys corner her and drag her into a room where they rip off her clothes and penetrate her whilst she beating down and crying as she tries to escape. She has to live with this for the rest of her life. It does not matter if the boys go to prison or not for she is scarred for life. I really wonder why as men we hate our women so much. i say hate because if we didn’t we would do the things that we do to them. There is not a woman alive who is of age who does not have a sad tale to tell about a man she knows or a friend, sister, mother or someone that has not been affected by the negative things that men do. It’s hard to see what it is exactly that make us cheat, beat and rape woman. Honestly if you force yourself on a woman the violation you do to her is eternal and she will never forget. She has tears in her eyes every time the word rape is raised and with the high rate of rape in this country those tears surely flow every day. How would you feel if it was your own mother who another man is violating? Imagine a woman asking you “how would you feel if it was you”? We have to draw a hard line as men that enough is enough before this cannot possibly go on. We cannot sit back and watch this abuse take place right before our eyes. We cant expect women to fight for their rights, life etc on their own when it is us that is causing the problems. A lot of girls are having babies on their own not because they discovered some new miracle but because you make her pregnant then you leave her to take care of herself and the baby. Like are we really that irresponsible, unloving and cruel to do that to a girl who just a few months back you couldn’t stop singing her praises. Now that she is carrying your child, you find it fit to abandon her and call her names. She is no longer your princess but some whore who cheated on you hence that’s why that baby simply can’t be yours. Lest you forget wasn’t it you that was humping her professing that to be love. Now comes the men who has a devoted wife and children who one day wakes up and realises that this is not for him its high time he found himself a new wife. Like really? You abandon your children who grew up playing with you and more often than not you have to be taken to court for you to even consider taking care of them! How do we even live with ourselves as men and look at ourselves in the mirror i wonder? We are vengeful and spiteful yet we usually are the cause of the problem. To all the girls that i know and don’t know, to every sister, mother, daughter, aunt, grandma that is out here is my message to you, keep your head up and never allow us (men) to bring you down. I feel your pain, i feel your insecurities, I feel your sense of betrayal and i totally understand why you do not trust us anymore. We have nowhere to hide because we deserve all this because we have failed so miserably!!! AND to my single mothers, you who are so dear to me because I know so many first hand and your struggles, I know its hard that much I cant deny. You grow up so quickly the moment your child is born there is no avoiding it. You have nowhere to run nor to hide. You stop being a girl whether you are 16 or 30 that baby changes who you are from that moment on. I know there are times when you wake up in the morning to the frightful realization that you are all alone in this. I know there are times when you worry where will the next meal come from, not for you but for her as you put her first before all else. I know you work so hard to make sure that she has everything you had growing up and more even if its the last r10 in your purse. Whats worse and saddens me most is that I know how you feel when the father of the baby refuses to play his part, when he refuses to contribute to the financial wellbeing of your baby when he has so much more to spare, when he cannot even make time to come hold your amazing God given creation or worse deny her altogether. I know it hurts so much but you smile through the tears and laugh through the pain so that your baby does not see what you are going through. I know there are times when you are irritated and just wish to be alone but she demands you attention. First you sulk, then you sigh, then you look at her and she smiles making the most amazing blessing in the world. She warms your heart, lightens your mood and brings a smile to yourself. You talk to her like she can understand you, have a conversation with her like she is responding and then you watch her grow up. There is no greater rewarding feeling I suppose than that building of a bond between a mother and child. Being a single mother must be tough. I see so many young girls struggle through it and to them I say I envy your fighting spirit and your strength. I envy the courage you show in raises something so fragile and beautiful on your own. I envy the dignity in which you turn from a girl to into a phenomenal young woman as you work on Gods gift to you. I know we dont all have supporting families who will help you raise your child but at the same time you are not alone. You have you baby with you and thats a starting point. And to those who have supporting families they just love her like she came from their loins. They teach you how to love her, nurture her, bathe her, protect her and yes raise her. As a single mom you are like a lioness that will down its life to protect its cub. You will give everything to make sure when tomorrow comes your baby has yet another reason to smile. Single mothers to you I say bravo, well done you really are amazing and inspiration to us all! From Mike Maphoto to all the amazing ladies who read what imaginary friends tell me to write, thank you and I salute you....
Posted on: Sat, 09 Aug 2014 05:48:08 +0000
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