Been reading a book called Boundaries in Marriage ... only at end of chapter 4 but just read a paragraph I thought was worth sharing. There are two kinds of people in the world, those who focus on what they want, always desiring it and never attaining it, and those who focus on what it takes to obtain what they want. The latter do the work, delay gratification, make sacrifices, and ultimately get the rewards of their work. In marriage if you focus on what you want and desire and just stay angry and disappointed that you are not getting it, you will remain there. But if you focus on cultivating the garden instead of demanding the fruit, then your garden will yield a huge harvest. Make cultivating the values we mention below of prime concern. Work on them. Stand against anything in yourself or your spouse that would destroy them. This is righteous indignation, and your marriage may depend on it. But also, do everything you can to increase the presence of thesebthings. Give time, money, energy, focus, and other resources to developing the love of God and each other, honesty, faithfulness, compassion, forgiveness, and holiness. Pursue them with everything the two of you can muster. They will not fail you in the end.
Posted on: Sat, 22 Nov 2014 02:43:14 +0000
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