Being alone and being lonely are two completely different experiences. We are the most lonely when we surround ourselves with people who are toxic for us. There is not a worse feeling then wanting to be intimate with someone or simply wanting someones love who cannot give it back to us in the way we desire. It puts us in the position to do all the work, all the planning, reaching out, communicating, fixing and giving. We do all of this in hopes they will see us and be inspired to make a reciprocal effort, but what we get instead is a person who is even more lazy because we have been doing all the work. At some point this type of loneliness must clue into us that we would be less lonely alone. When alone, we could at least take the time to learn to give to ourselves and love ourselves with the same effort that we love emotionally-unavailable people. When we first leave we may feel extremely lonely but at least when we start to give to and love ourselves we will see a return on our investment, and this is when we increase favor in our lives. Our lives will undoubtedly get better and we will get better. As we get better we will attract healthier people who can give as much to us as we give to them. We often waste so much of our time and energy being miserable in the pursuit of trying to make another person happy. If your are going to commit to making someone happy, let that person be you.
Posted on: Fri, 28 Nov 2014 12:00:01 +0000
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