Beloved, WEDDING planning isnt a substitute for MARRIAGE planning. The two look alike, often misused interchangeably, but they arent the same. No doubt you’ve either been to one, will go to one or have one. But my point here is that... It’s the time for people to live out their fairytale, the time when women and their mothers intend to collaborate on (or fight for) their preferences from wedding Master Of Ceremony, to locations to invitations to seating charts. It’s also the time when bridesmaids yield to the bride, paying to wear and agreeing to do things they never would under any other circumstance, so that she can have her perfect wedding. People put an outrageous amount of time, energy and money into planning their perfect wedding: The perfect color, the perfect flowers, the perfect label, the perfect dress, the perfect location(s), the perfect rings, the perfect hairdo, the perfect honeymoon, even the perfect people in terms of imagery (looks, size, hair and sadly, even skin tone) in order to capture what they might consider the perfect wedding picture and of course, the perfect media coverage-Our-Perfect-Wedding. Unfortunately, not nearly as much time and effort is put into planning the marriage which is the real deal. Sadly, this is why many marriages are unhappy and unhealthy — and more than half end in separation and divorce; disallowing their kids to enjoy the luxury of growing up in a home. All of this effort is doing one thing: Feeding into a racket called the wedding industry designed to sell the illusion of happy marriages. And to the less-than-smart consumers, a perfect wedding is the precursor to a perfect marriage. Somehow, some people believe that’s how it works. Well, allow the #SINGLESANDMARRIEDCOMPASS to burst your fairytale – your financially irresponsible and emotionally gullible bubble, that is: If your marriage (your commitment to self love, honor, esteem and respect and genuine support of each other) isn’t established before you say “I do,” a common piece of government paper and your vows before God and loved ones won’t make it so. In fact, you’re only consummating – sealing – everything that it is up to that point, not ensuring that your vows will bound you to make it better. Many indeed do get their fairy tale wedding, but dont get to live their dream marriage. The happy ever after ;that takes more than effort- that is , intentional personal growth and diligence in choosing suitable mate,often called a God-fearing person -it takes a skill which one cant just pick up by the road but must consciously learn without allowing ones emotion to interfere with the lessons. So before you consider saying “I do”, start planning your marriage by asking questions about yourselves. Let your observation and conversation during the courting process centers around your marriage; rather than just getting caught up in “love,” planning a wedding and then finding out that your marriage is unsustainable. Talk about your finances, Talk about how you would resolve conflicting interest, talk about children,and if youve got one you are bringing into your marriage, talk about it. Talk about family interactions and expectations. Talk, Talk, Talk!!! Talk it out before you say I do, that you wont have to go and talk it out in the Divorce court! I pray for you and with you, you wont miss it in marriage in the name of Jesus!
Posted on: Sat, 28 Jun 2014 06:38:01 +0000
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