CURSE ON THOSE WHO CURSE, IGNORE OR HARM THEIR PARENTS Prophet (s.a.w) said ....Allah cursed him who cursed his parents ... [Ref: Sahih Muslim,Book 22, Hadith 4877, Al- Adab Al-Mufrad 17] Prophet (s.a.w) said Jibrael (a.s) said , He is doomed, who grows up and both his parents, or one of them is still alive, and they do not cause him to enter Paradise (in the Hadeeth of Musnad Ahmad 7445 the wordings are then Allah may distance him ) He (Jibrael) said, Say, Ameen. So, I (Muhammad) said, Ameen. [Ref: Tirmidhi 3556 and Ibn Hibban - classified Saheeh by Shk. Albani ] Also see (click here): The Obligation to maintain the family ties even if you hate them and the cursed is the one who does not take care of his parents WHAT DOES HONORING THE PARENTS MEAN? This could be a very lenghty defination but i will shorten it for the convinience of the reader i shall summarize it as follows Honouring one’s parents means obeying them, respecting them, praying for them, lowering one’s voice in their presence, smiling at them, lowering the wing of humility to them, not showing displeasure towards them, striving to serve them, fulfilling their wishes, consulting them, listening to what they say, not being stubborn towards them and respecting their friends both during their lifetime and after they have died. ...................................................................... .............................. AHADEETH AND TRADITIONS SHOUTING OUT LOUD THE IMPORTANCE OF HOLDING TIES OF KINSHIP Abu Huraira (r.a)s Announcement : ﺃﺧﺒﺮﻧﺎ ﺃﺑﻮ ﻋﺒﺪ ﺍﻟﻠﻪ ﺍﻟﺤﺎﻓﻆ، ﻭﻣﺤﻤﺪ ﺑﻦ ﻣﻮﺳﻰ، ﻗﺎﻻ : ﻧﺎ ﺃﺑﻮ ﺍﻟﻌﺒﺎﺱ ﺍﻷﺻﻢ، ﻧﺎ ﻣﺤﻤﺪ ﺑﻦ ﻋﺒﻴﺪ ﺍﻟﻠﻪ ﺑﻦ ﺍﻟﻤﻨﺎﺩﻱ، ﻧﺎ ﻳﻮﻧﺲ ﺑﻦ ﻣﺤﻤﺪ ﺍﻟﻤﺆﺩﺏ، ﻧﺎ ﺍﻟﺨﺰﺭﺝ، ﻋﻦ ﺃﺑﻲ ﺃﻳﻮﺏ، ﻋﻦ ﺃﺑﻲ ﻫﺮﻳﺮﺓ، ﻗﺎﻝ : ﺟﺎﺀ ﻋﺸﻴﺔ ﺧﻤﻴﺲ ﻟﻴﻠﺔ ﺍﻟﺠﻤﻌﺔ، ﻗﺎﻝ : ﻓﻘﻌﺪ ﺍﻟﻨﺎﺱ ﺣﻮﻟﻪ، ﻗﺎﻝ : ﺃﺣﺮﺝ ﻋﻠﻰ ﻛﻞ ﻗﺎﻃﻊ ﺭﺣﻢ ﺇﻻ ﻗﺎﻡ ﻣﻦ ﻋﻨﺪﻧﺎ، ﻗﺎﻝ : ﻓﻘﺎﻡ ﺷﺎﺏ ﻓﺄﺗﻰ ﻋﻤﺔ ﻟﻪ ﻗﺪ ﺣﺮﻣﻬﺎ ﻣﻨﺬ ﺳﻨﻴﻦ، ﻓﺴﻠﻢ ﻋﻠﻴﻬﺎ، ﻓﻘﺎﻟﺖ : ﺍﺑﻦ ﺃﺧﻲ ﻣﺎ ﺟﺎﺀ ﺑﻚ؟ ﻗﺎﻝ : ﻻ، ﺇﻻ ﺃﻧﻲ ﻗﻌﺪﺕ ﺇﻟﻰ ﺃﺑﻲ ﻫﺮﻳﺮﺓ ﻓﻘﺎﻝ : ﺃﺣﺮﺝ ﻋﻠﻰ ﻛﻞ ﻗﺎﻃﻊ ﺭﺣﻢ ﺇﻻ ﻗﺎﻡ ﻣﻦ ﻋﻨﺪﻧﺎ، ﺣﺘﻰ ﻛﺎﻧﺖ ﺍﻟﺜﺎﻟﺜﺔ، ﻗﺎﻟﺖ : ﺍﺭﺟﻊ ﺇﻟﻴﻪ ﻓﺎﺳﺄﻟﻪ ﻟﻢ ﻗﺎﻝ ﺫﻟﻚ؟ ﻓﺮﺟﻊ ﺇﻟﻴﻪ ﻓﻘﺺ ﻋﻠﻴﻪ ﺍﻟﻘﺼﺔ ﻣﺎ ﻛﺎﻥ ﻣﻦ ﺃﻣﺮﻩ ﻭﻣﺎ ﻗﺎﻟﺖ ﻟﻪ ﻋﻤﺘﻪ، ﻓﻘﺎﻝ ﺃﺑﻮ ﻫﺮﻳﺮﺓ : ﺳﻤﻌﺖ ﺭﺳﻮﻝ ﺍﻟﻠﻪ ﺻﻠﻰ ﺍﻟﻠﻪ ﻋﻠﻴﻪ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ ﻳﻘﻮﻝ : ﺇﻥ ﺃﻋﻤﺎﻝ ﺑﻨﻲ ﺁﺩﻡ ﺗﻌﺮﺽ ﻛﻞ ﺧﻤﻴﺲ ﻟﻴﻠﺔ ﺍﻟﺠﻤﻌﺔ، ﻓﻼ ﻳﻘﺒﻞ ﻋﻤﻞ ﻗﺎﻃﻊ ﺭﺣﻢ A young man once went to attend the weekly hadith lecture of the Sahabi Sayyidna Abu Hurairah, Radi-Allahu anhu but Abu Hurairahs routine opening announcement stopped him: If anyone sitting here has severed any ties of kinship (qata-ur-rahim), he should leave. (and repair his relationship). The young man recalled his aunt, who lived in the same town but with whom he had not been on speaking terms. The young man quietly left the gathering and went straight to his aunts home. He met his aunt and asked for forgiveness for his past behavior and sought rapprochement. When the aunt inquired about the reason for this change of heart, the young man narrated how he had heard Abu Hurairas announcement. His aunt accepted the apology but asked him to inquire from Abu Hurairah, Radi-Allahu anhu, the reason for this unusual announcement. Why, instead of mentioning the major sins, did Abu Hurairah focus only on this issue? What was so special about ties of kinship? Sayyidna Abu Hurairah replied that he had heard from the Prophet Sall-Allahu alayhi wa sallam that our deeds are presented to Allah every Thursday night and anyone who has severed family ties has all his good deeds rejected. Abu Hurairah did not want any such person sitting in his gathering, which was held on the same night, for fear that it could deprive the entire gathering of blessings. Another hadith in Adaab Al Mufrad written by Imam Bukhari, explains further the reason for this fear: Allahs mercy will not descend on people among whom there is one who severs ties of kinship. [al-Bayhaqi, Shuab Al-Iman - hadith 7595 and reported in Adaab al Mufrad but classified as Daeef on pg. 31 da’eef - Irwaa (no. 949) ] Which Deed is Loved the Most by Allah? Abdullah bin Mas’ud said, ‘I asked the Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam), Which deed is loved most by Allah?’ He replied, ‘To offer As-Salat (the prayers) at their early (very first) stated times. Abdullah bin Mas’ud asked, ‘What is next (in goodness)?’ The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said, ‘To be good and dutiful to one’s parents.’ Abdullah bin Mas’ud asked, ‘What is next (in goodness)? The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said, ‘To participate in Jihad for Allah’s cause.’ Abdullah ibn Mas’ud added, ‘The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) narrated to me these things, and if I had asked more, he would have told me more.’” [Sahih Al-Bukhari Vol. 8, Book 73, Hadith 2, Sahih Muslim Book 32, Hadith 6180, Adab al- Mufrad Book 1, Hadith 5 and 6] It is a duty on man to be kind to his parents, because Allah says (interpretation of the meaning): “…be good and dutiful to your parents…” [Al- An’aam 6:151] It is a must to show gratitude to them in all kinds of ways, as Allah says (interpretation of the meaning): “…give thanks to Me and to your parents…” [Luqmaan 31:14] The mother deserves the best of treatment and has the greatest of rights over a man Abu Hurairah (radi Allahu anhu) narrated: A man came to Allah’s Messenger (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) and said, “O Allah’s Messenger! Who is more entitled to be treated with the best companionship by me?” The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said, “Your mother.” The man said, “Who is next?” The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said, “Your mother.” The man further said, “Who is next?” The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said, “Your mother.” The man asked ( for the fourth time), “Who is next?” The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said, “Your father.” [Narrated by Imam Muslim in his Saheeh Book 32, Hadith 6181; Ibn Maajah Vol. 5, Book 33 Hadith 3658 ; Sunan at-Tirmidhi Vol. 4, Book 1, Hadith 1897, Adab al Mufrad Book 1, Hadith 3 & 14; and there are many similar ahaadeeth. ] Ibn Salamah As-Sulami narrated that the Prophet (p.b.u.h) said: “I enjoin each one to honor his mother,I enjoin each one to honor his mother,I enjoin each one to honor his mother(three times), I enjoin each one to honor his guardian who is taking care of him, even if he is causing him some annoyance.” [Sunan Ibn Maajah Vol. 5, Book 33, Hadith 3657] The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) heard the recitation of Haarithah ibn al-Nu’maan in Paradise and said: He attained this level (in paradise) because of Honoring his mother [ Narrated by Ibn Wahb in al-Jaami’ (22); classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in al-Silsilah al- Saheehah (913).] Aishah (May Allah be pleased with her) asked the Messenger of Allah (PBUH) : Who has the greatest rights over a woman? He said, Her husband. She asked, `And who has the greatest rights over a man? He said, His mother. [Reported by al-Bazzar with a hasan isnad. See Majma al-Zawaid, 4/308, Bab haqq al-zawj alal-marah, Hakim, Fiqh us-Sunnah. But this is a weak (da’eef) hadeeth, which was classed as such by al-Albaani in Da’eef al-Targheeb wa’l-Tarheeb, 1212, and he criticized al- Mundhiri for classing it as hasan. However the meaning remains right due to corroborating evidences] Always remember , Allah (s.w.t) said : “His mother bears him with hardship. And she brings him forth with hardship” [Quran, al-Ahqaaf 46:15] Pleasing ones Father or Parents means Pleasing Allah It was narrated from ‘Abd-Allah ibn ‘Amr (radi Allahu anhu) that the Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “The pleasure of the Lord is in the pleasure of one’s father and the anger of the Lord is in the anger of one’s father.” [at-Tirmidhi Vol. 4, Book 1, Hadith 1899 Classed as Hasan by Albani , Also reported in Adab al Mufrad Book1, Hadith # 2] It was narrated that ‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Amr ibn al-‘Aas said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The Lord is pleased when the parents are pleased and He is angry when the parents are angry. [Mustadrak al-Haakim 7331 and Shobal Emaan of Bayhaqi 7330 and Imam al-Haakim said the sanad of this hadeeth is as per the conditions of Imam Muslim] SOURCE OF MUSTADRAK AL-HAAKIM
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