Choosing to love and feeling of love are two different things that most married and singles do not understand. Choosing to love is a decision which is not based on feeling but a concrete determination to love despite the fluctuating nature of the feeling of love. Whereas, feeling of love is an emotion which changes with time and if two people marry because of the feeling of love, they are bound to struggle in the marriage. When you make a decision to love, your love is likened to a straight line which means the love is constant. You can still tell your spouse, I love you even when you dont feel it. I know you will say, thats pretence but I tell you that is love at its best-the most talked about unconditional love otherwise known as unselfish love. But when you are operating on feeling of love, it is likened to the wave movement of an ocean which rises and falls at intervals. At that level, you only tell your spouse I love you when you feeled loved and that is real pretence because the love is occasioned by something-selfish love. To further understand the concept of feeling, these are some examples of feelings: hatred, sad, happiness, anger, etc. Ask yourself, do I feel sad, happy, angry, hate, etc at all times? The answer is no, something must propel any of the feelings. From the foregoing, if you are a single and your decision to marry is based on feeling of love please revert to choosing to love else your marriage will hit the rock.
Posted on: Sat, 11 Oct 2014 05:49:45 +0000
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