Cj had a bouncy ball that was left outside some day last week and went missing. I didnt think much of it because it wasnt in anything and just thought the wind helped it roll away. One of the kids Cj plays with, who lives behind us, was outside playing with it today, so when I saw it I scooped up Cj and went out there with the intention of getting the ball back. It wasnt a big deal because we have sort of an open toy sharing policy when they are out there together anyways. The kid says to me that he found this ball and asked if it was Cjs. So, I said yes, and we accidentally left it outside and thanked him for keeping it safe for us. On his own, the the kid said that he should let Cj have it back. After a few seconds it sunk it that he said he was giving it back, and he started to get a little upset about the idea. I think he mumbled, a little and whined. Nothing major, calling it a tantrum would even be a stretch. This whole time I was talking to the mom too, just chit chat like we always do. When her son started to get upset about giving the ball back, she quickly interjected as if I just whispered this great surprise to her..Oh, great! Thanks for letting him keep it, what a great gift. Isnt that nice of her and Cj?! Say thank you.! Um...the kid is 4, even he looked like he knew something wasnt right. I didnt want the kid to be in the middle of an even more strange conversation, so I said, well Ill just let you keep it at your house in case we leave it outside again. Then when Cj is outside you can both play with it, since you both share your toys with each other. This is over a bouncy ball! It wasnt a big deal. I found her reaction odd though. I mean, they have a huge pool, a big swing set, teeter/todder, riding toys like a mini tractor, basically a small park in their back yard. Cj has a bouncy ball, inflatable duck and a little Thomas the train trike. Her kid isnt missing anything, and wanted to do the right thing even though it made him feel a little upset. He wasnt having a tantrum and screaming or something like that. He just scrunched up his face, and whined for a second. Why would a mom do that? Why would you not allow your kid to feel the conflict that comes with doing the right thing at times? Why would you rescue him from such a temporary bad feeling, telling him that those feelings should be avoided at all costs because he doesnt like them, and you as his mom does not want him to feel it either? Why would you raise a perfectly great kid who at 4 already has a sense of what the right thing is, into an entitled bratty kid showing him that its ok to lie to get your way? Parents, dont teach your kid these lessons. Nothing good is ever going to come from it, especially the older they get! Im so far from the ideal parent, and get a lot of things wrong but I can say, that I would never do that just so Cj wouldnt have to feel uncomfortable about having to do the right thing.
Posted on: Thu, 24 Jul 2014 23:56:32 +0000
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