Communication in a relationship is critical. Clear communication works best. Be honest, but polite, about what you want to say. Think before you say it. When talking about things: *Do not blame the person. This will make them defensive and tend to yell. *Do not bring up old arguments. Leave the past in the past. *Talk when you are calm and you are not stressed out. If you begin to get agitated, say something like I am too angry to talk now, but I will be back in an hour to talk more about this. Then leave, take a walk, get an ice cream, do something. *Use I statements. Ex: When the garbage is not emptied every day, it stinks, and I feel like you are not holding up your promise to empty the garbage. Or I feel hurt when you dont talk to me. Compromise. Ask for something realistic and be ready to compromise on it. Each person has to get their needs met. You are not the center of the universe. *Your partner has needs too. Ask them what they are. You are not expected to be a mind reader. *Learn about yourself and your needs. Only when you know yourself can you ask your partner to help you meet your needs.
Posted on: Thu, 17 Oct 2013 20:49:56 +0000
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