Copying with Loss Our good, long-term friends get a more accurate picture of our true personality. We let our hair down with them and they see us in all our true jeans-and-t-shirt-no makeup- moody, glorious. We share a lot with them, they become a special part of our life history!!!!! Their life becomes woven into the threads of our own life! They know us this deeply, they have seen us in good moods, in bad moods, in anger, in tears, in joy and they have helped us with many solutions to life challenges. A thread in our life unravels and it may feel like a part of the fabric has been torn when we lose special friends like those. That is why it is sooooooooo painful when a long term friendship collapses and disintegrates. Many people cope with such a loss by pretending the friendship was not really that special or that the person didnt truly know them that well. When we lose our special friends, we should allow ourselves to grieve. If angry, let yourself be angry. If you are hurt, acknowledge to yourself that you feel hurt and that it is normal. If you spent a lot of time with the person, find a new activity to fill the gap that their absence will leave. If you feel you are the one at fault for the break up, apologize. Even if the apology is not well received, you will feel better. When a valued friendship ends, the most important thing you can do is to acknowledge that it is a real loss. Friendships can be the most special bond we have with one another. No one discusses the loss of a deep friendship much in our society, but this loss can be temporarily devastating to all individuals involved. The best thing you can do when faced with this kind of loss is be as “grown up” and “sane” as possible--and allow yourself to mourn in whatever way is best for you. To all my friends out there, I hope this helps you deal with any loss knowing that Jesus Christ is always around to mourn with you!
Posted on: Mon, 04 Nov 2013 11:09:16 +0000
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