DAPAT BA TALAGANG PALUIN ANG BATA? Mild or Harsh? It is important to look at the way parents administer physical punishments. A swat on the bottom is a mild physical punishment. While it may do no permanent physical harm, it does not help the child develop a conscience. Instead, it teaches him that physical violence is an acceptable way of dealing with problems. Parents should avoid physical punishment. If they find themselves using it, then something is wrong and their method of discipline is not working. They may as well admit that spanking is more effective in relieving the parents frustration than in teaching the child self-control. More effective methods are needed. Harsh physical punishment and verbal abuse can never be justified as ways to discipline children. Parents usually spank when they are angry; a parent may not realize how hard he is striking the child. Verbal abuse hurts the childs self concept. Why Punishment Doesnt Work Physical punishment usually doesnt work for several reasons. First, it makes the child hate himself and others. Physical punishment makes the child think that there must be something awfully wrong with him to be treated so badly. If children think they are bad, then they will act bad. A vicious cycle is formed. The child who has been treated harshly has no reason to be good. Or he may be good just to keep from being punished and not learn to be good because he thinks it is the right thing to do. Children who have been spanked feel that they have paid for their misbehavior and are free to misbehave again. In other words, spanking frees the child from feelings of remorse which are needed to prevent future misbehavior. Parents who use physical punishment are setting an example of using violence to settle problems or solve conflicts, Children imitate their parents behavior. When parents use physical punishment, children are more likely to use violent acts to settle their conflicts with others. Another disadvantage of using physical punishment is that parents have to find other discipline methods when the child becomes as tall and as strong as the parent! Why not start using effective discipline methods when the child is young? Where reward and punishment focus on the child, encouragement and reality discipline target the act. Reward and punishment teaches the child to be good as long as we are looking. When rewards are our chief way of motivating children we run the risk of creating carrot seekers: children who are always looking for and expecting a reward every time they do something good or right. If we give a child money for making his bed this week, hell wonder where his money is next week. Instead of being self-motivated by a desire to cooperate or help other family members, we have taught the child to look to us for his source of motivation.
Posted on: Tue, 15 Oct 2013 08:27:11 +0000
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